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1. Colleen O Says:
   September 30th, 2008 at 3:43 am

   Ignre the tantrums. If you can put the child in their room with a child gate in the doorway and walk away for a few minutes (my daughter would bang her head, throw herself to the ground, bite herself till she bled and last would hold her breath) If he throws a tantrum about being in the car seat DO NOT take him with you. Explain to him that in order to go with you he has to exhibit appropriate behavior and throwing a fit about being in the car seat is not approrpriate then FOLLOW THROUGH. My daughter LOVED going to the mall and just walking around, however she threw one fit and for over 6 months she didn't get to go.
   After that there were no fits.
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2. Renewed Says:
   September 30th, 2008 at 3:55 am

   Has he been tested for anything or diagnosed with anything?
   I am a mother of three (autistic), we have sensory overload, LOL well I should say used to, until I started working hard with them to stop it.
   Never the less I work with children with sensory overloads and temper tantrums all day everyday and come out of is smiling. That and the God given gift to work with little ones.
   It goes according to his age, but a few thing you can try that work over a period of about two weeks of constant doing it. Try physically redirecting him(never be rough with it, always calm and genital), making sure you have eye contact with him at all times while givinging him answers to any questions he may have, or direction of any kind. If you put him in time out… put yourself their as well (bring a book), until he understand he has to sit there until he is given permission to get up), staying there with him will help him understand you are not playing with him, there is less threat of him trying to try you, if he knows you are being serious. The min he move, you put him right back in that spot.
   There is so many other ways to help get this under control, no matter what is going on, I have only skimmed the surface.
   One of my favorites, because it helps cam me down as well as the child, is just sitting there with a angry child in my arms, until it just breaks, a few times of this and they normally don’t give me anymore trouble, maybe because they know I won’t hurt them, care about them or are just plain scared I’ll smother them, in my chest, either way it works wonders, LOL
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3. momwithavoice Says:
   September 30th, 2008 at 4:28 am

   My son has Sensory Integration Disorder and High Functioning Autism and we have gone through the same thing. He is 5 now and a lot has improved but it is still a challenge.
   How old is your son? If he is only 3 or 4 it may just be normal acting out- kids with sensory problems often develop a little more slowly that other kids- he may be going through the terrible two's a little late.
   But it may be something more. I was a preschool teacher prior to having my own kids, and while I could teach him academics, he needed socialization skills that could only be learned through group settings and by modelling others. There should be a program set up through the school system in your area for children with developmental issues. Once he started that it made a big improvement in his behaviour, but it took a while for it to show. He still goes to it until he starts Kindergarten next year.
   For right now, I would suggest bringing him to his pediatrician and getting a formal diagnosis and setting him up with Physical, Occupational and Speech Therapy and maybe a Behaviour Specialist dealing with Sensory Defensiveness and Self Injurous Behaviours (biting self, banging into walls, etc). Much of the acting out my son did was because of frustration since he couldn't communicate what was wrong or couldn't do something he was trying to do. And your son may benefit from that as well. They showed me how to do Brush Therapy and to use pressure balls to help calm him and that helped a lot.
   My son still doesn't like being told no (what kid does, lol), and time out and the usual behaviour modification techniques did not work. We had to figure out why he was doing the things that he was doing.
   For instance, he would scream every time we went to the store and I put him in a cart. We figured out that it was caused by the movement of the cart- Vestibular movement really bothered him, going backwards in the cart moved the fluid in his ears and made them hurt. Turning him around and putting him in the cart (not the seat) fixed it. He also gets overwhelmed by crowds and open spaces, i.e. stores, theme parks, malls etc. Giving him a blanket to cover up under looks wierd, but it gave him a safe place to hide and he would quiet down. Try to find out what is bothering him and is it under or over stimulation- then try to fix it.
   Remember that all his senses are used, tags, clothes, sounds, smells, bright light, movement, routines and feeling sick or allergies all can contribute.
   I would also suggest joining a support group (online or in person) to get ideas- things like this take a lot of energy and emotion and every kid is different, what works for one may not work for another.
   Some of it may be just accepting his limitations, knowing that over time they will get better and trying to keep a positive attitude, knowing that as hard as it is for you, it is worse for him. I know how frustrating and hard that can be.
   Hope this helps, and God bless.
   Sorry for spelling errors, spell check isn't working lol
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