what can i do about my 18mnth olds temper?
November 30th, 2008 by adminmy little girl is 18mnths old and has such a temper and is just pure meanat times. she has 2 older brothers 2 and 4 and she will walk up to them and push them or hit them, take toys away etc. for no reason at all. i have put in time out,on the naughty step and other things but nothing works…what can i do?
It's completely normal behaviour so don't panic. They do stop doing it eventually. It is purely to get attention. Toddlers don't associate the attention you give them with being naughty, they just like the reaction that they get. Say no firmly and take her away from the situation, then pay lots of attention to her brothers.
When she wants to play again just let her join back in and don't mention the incident. If she does it again just do the above.
It's a case of being patient and eventually the behaviour will become less frequent.
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November 30th, 2008 at 11:04 pm
It's completely normal behaviour so don't panic. They do stop doing it eventually. It is purely to get attention. Toddlers don't associate the attention you give them with being naughty, they just like the reaction that they get. Say no firmly and take her away from the situation, then pay lots of attention to her brothers.
When she wants to play again just let her join back in and don't mention the incident. If she does it again just do the above.
It's a case of being patient and eventually the behaviour will become less frequent.
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November 30th, 2008 at 11:14 pm
teach her to do sit ups, trust me. I have a ten year old who was the same way. So for punishment he had to do sit ups. After a couple of days he learned that he was just making himself hurt. I haven't had to really discipline my son since he was 4.
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November 30th, 2008 at 11:26 pm
I have the same problem with my 20 month old boy, he hits, nips, bites, screams and changing his nappy is a nightmare, I end up with nips all up my arms. He has a 5 year old brother who doesn't get much peace! What I have been doing is when he starts doing something very naughty I fasten him in his pushchair in the passage and shut the door. He screams for about 5 mins then I can hear him talking and singing and everything is calm again! Different things work for different children though, this works for us! Good luck!
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November 30th, 2008 at 11:51 pm
i know how you feel my little boy just turned 3 and he does the same,its like hes got a split personality hel be fine 1 min and the next the devil child,best thing you can do is to try and ignore the behaviour,i know its hard but thats why they do it for attention,and remember when they are good praise the hell out of them,it is just a phase…i hope good luck
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December 1st, 2008 at 12:18 am
Kids crave attention -good attention OR bad attention.
The naughtly step will work for some kids (sitting quietly at the bottom of the stairs for X minutes, X being their age in years). That way, they learn that being naughty just gets them less attention/isolation.
however, some kids will just refuse to sit on the step, so slightly more enforceable measures are called for. Like the suggestion above, strapped in a pushchair and put in a room in their own, or even put in their bedroom with their door held shut for X minutes.
It's important that when the X minutes is up, you calmly and quietly explain why they were put in the room/in the step, and ask for an apology. If you don't get the apology, back in the room.
They'll get the message after a few days. Worked for my 5 year old. He's no angel, but the raging temper-demon no longer emerges!
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December 1st, 2008 at 12:42 am
hiya i have 2 girls one is 2 nd one is 1, just give praise to the other kids, and ignore her when she does something naughty then take the other kids away and do something fun with them and don't let her join in till she says sorry.
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December 1st, 2008 at 1:05 am
i think she may need time with either parent one-on-one. if shes playing alone and has time out from the boys with just mummy then shes not feeling for attention from you. you may not mean or notice it but it could be a fight for attention its difficult i know keeping 3 kids going all day but think of how much your 1st had of your time? and compare that to the time you spend with your 3rd?
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