How can I deal with my short temper?
April 4th, 2009 by adminI have a really short temper, I tend not to express myself, and when I do, it comes out in a hurricane of emotions..I also am insecure and stuff,(also my brother loves teasing me and stuff) so is there anything to control anger, and all?
I keep a diary for my emotions but its turmoil..really.
I have intense anger issues too. When I get really frustrated about things I tend to want to scream or hit something. It relieves the stress a little, but it never really helps things sadly. So I don't advice doing that.
Not to contradict jukeboxguy00, but I know counting to 10 doesn't work for me at least.
When I'm really mad its too difficult for me to just count and breathe, it's not that simple to contain anger all the time. Maybe for some but, not for me most of the time. = /
I release some stress by listening to an angry song really loud with headphones, and screaming along with the lyrics. It helps if the music is loud enough to drown out your voice.
It also helps if your into bands like slipknot and stuff, haha. But um, if not then you could always try exercise. I remember when I was in Tae Kwon Doe classes all the punching and kicking and physical activity helped release my pent up aggression in a positive manor. Or you could always try getting a punching bag to hit and take out your aggression on.
You should try talking to someone you trust about the things that bother you, someone who'll just listen and stuff. I know I help a lot of my friends out by just listening to them and talking with them. Try not to let things pile up…as hard as that can be.
Writing can help a lot sometimes, but usually when I myself am angry and writing about something, I just tend to write angrily. Swear a lot, break the pencil, violently scribble, stuff like that. Cuz writing takes concentration, and patience that I don't currently have.
You could try talking to your brother about the teasing, but brothers are pretty good for not listening. -_-;;
So my best advice is ignore him, and drown it out. Siblings are usually there to pick on your and be a pain in the ass, if you let them get the satisfaction of pissing you off they just get to laugh about it later. Though I dooo know how difficult it can be sometimes, just try not to feed into it. It could possibly take out some of the joy he gets out of it, don't give up though. He'll continue for a while just out of habit, if he does in fact stop eventually without the re-enforcement of you not paying him any mind.
I apologize for this being so long but I'd like to hope that maybe I helped in some way. ^_^;;
Good luck, and hang in there. Anger can be tough to deal with seeing as its such a strong driving emotion, but you can be tougher. = )
<3
Joe
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April 4th, 2009 at 5:33 am
The old count to ten before you say or do something you wish you didn't. At least you see the problem and are looking for ways to control it. That's a great start. Good Luck.
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April 4th, 2009 at 5:38 am
pilates, yoga. if you are physically fit running can be a great way to let loose anger. you could also try breathing exercises. put up a calmer enviroment in your room. light some incense. if you want you can even go so far as to paint your walls an earthy color. pick up your room so you dont come home to a messy area. these are all the things i have tried and they help me a lot
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April 4th, 2009 at 5:55 am
I have intense anger issues too. When I get really frustrated about things I tend to want to scream or hit something. It relieves the stress a little, but it never really helps things sadly. So I don't advice doing that.
Not to contradict jukeboxguy00, but I know counting to 10 doesn't work for me at least.
When I'm really mad its too difficult for me to just count and breathe, it's not that simple to contain anger all the time. Maybe for some but, not for me most of the time. = /
I release some stress by listening to an angry song really loud with headphones, and screaming along with the lyrics. It helps if the music is loud enough to drown out your voice.
It also helps if your into bands like slipknot and stuff, haha. But um, if not then you could always try exercise. I remember when I was in Tae Kwon Doe classes all the punching and kicking and physical activity helped release my pent up aggression in a positive manor. Or you could always try getting a punching bag to hit and take out your aggression on.
You should try talking to someone you trust about the things that bother you, someone who'll just listen and stuff. I know I help a lot of my friends out by just listening to them and talking with them. Try not to let things pile up…as hard as that can be.
Writing can help a lot sometimes, but usually when I myself am angry and writing about something, I just tend to write angrily. Swear a lot, break the pencil, violently scribble, stuff like that. Cuz writing takes concentration, and patience that I don't currently have.
You could try talking to your brother about the teasing, but brothers are pretty good for not listening. -_-;;
So my best advice is ignore him, and drown it out. Siblings are usually there to pick on your and be a pain in the ass, if you let them get the satisfaction of pissing you off they just get to laugh about it later. Though I dooo know how difficult it can be sometimes, just try not to feed into it. It could possibly take out some of the joy he gets out of it, don't give up though. He'll continue for a while just out of habit, if he does in fact stop eventually without the re-enforcement of you not paying him any mind.
I apologize for this being so long but I'd like to hope that maybe I helped in some way. ^_^;;
Good luck, and hang in there. Anger can be tough to deal with seeing as its such a strong driving emotion, but you can be tougher. = )
<3
Joe
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April 4th, 2009 at 6:19 am
Thumbs up to Joe. Wow… That's the best advice. I have crazy anger issues [that I am now medicated for] and that's all exactly what I would have said.
Cheers!
Lexi.
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