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1. rattlesnake1221 Says:
   December 27th, 2008 at 1:23 am

   We take our son a "designated fit throwing area" and leave him alone. They do it for your attention/reaction - if you turn around or leave, there's no audience and it should reduce the fits.
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2. magy Says:
   December 27th, 2008 at 2:02 am

   You can't 'stop' them, but you can greatly reduce their frequency by letting her know that's not how we get our way. my little guy, 16 months now, does this sometimes, we basically put him down and walk away, and if he follows us to continue the snit, we put him in his playtime for a time out. You are right to not give into these fits, that would make it worse, keep it up, and let her know that acting violently towards you results in a separation. It should diminish soon- be patient and persistent. i know personally how tiring and wearing these actions are- hang in there!
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3. poseyschic Says:
   December 27th, 2008 at 2:37 am

   My daughter threw fits similiar to this, but she liked to bite me. My day care provider introduced me to happy water. When her kids start to throw a fit, she takes a small cup of water and splashes it on them. It gets their attention and calms the fit. There are very few kids I haven't seen it work on. I also tried a spray bottle. It sounds a little mean, but it surprises them and stops the flow of anger for them. You could try it. Good luck!
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4. mel s Says:
   December 27th, 2008 at 3:15 am

   You must not give in, it will only make the behavior last longer.
   You will have to give her time out after the behavior, and always stick to your punishments.
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5. Mrs. Jent Says:
   December 27th, 2008 at 3:50 am

   The more attention you give your child during bad behavior, the more they will do it. They want your attention… It's good that you don't give in by the way. If your daughter is throwing a fit, ignore her, move her into a seperate room if she is dangerous, but otherwise, get to her level and say, no more, when you are done, we can do something fun. (whatever you guys do that is fun) and praise her when she is good, ignore her when she is bad. If ignoring isn't the best way, never raise your voice, she has to quiet down to hear you… talk to her, explain you know she is upset, and ask her what you can do to fix it, then, when she tells you, you both work it out & try to find a happy medium. If she is unable to express what she wants… try to figure it out as a game with her.
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6. Gypsy Girl Says:
   December 27th, 2008 at 4:32 am

   Put her down at the first sign of a temper tantrum and walk to the other side of the room. Ask her if she wants a time out. Once she learns what a time out is, she will be able to answer you and change her actions appropriately. Having said that, I don't believe a child should be punished for having a temper tantrum. I believe the child should be allowed to express her feelings. She should get a time out for hitting and pulling your hair.

   Please don't throw water in her face. You don't necessarily want to stop her from having a temper tantrum, just teach her how to express her feelings in a socially acceptable way. My nephew sometimes puts himself in timeout when he needs it. He is now 5.
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7. bunnybabe Says:
   December 27th, 2008 at 4:54 am

   Don't give her what she wants. If you are in public remove her from the enviroment and put her in time out.Have a chair or throw rug that is the "timeout" spot. when talking to her get down to her eye level and keep your voice calm but firm and tell her that her behavior is not acceptable.Consistancy is key. If when you put her in time out she doesn't stay, you put her back and you tell her a specific reason as to why she is going there. BE Patient. It will take several tries, but she WILL see that you are in charge not her.When time out is over(a minute for every year…and the clock restarts every time she leaves time out) you go to her and nicely ask for an apology and a hug.
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8. Angela F Says:
   December 27th, 2008 at 5:02 am

   My daughter started throwing fits around the same time. At first I would feed into her behavior and things just got worse. I found out after a while she would throw a fit because I would always give in to her. I quit that and started to ignore the behavior and eventually she learned that she was not going to get what she wanted and stopped throwing the fits. As far as your daughter smacking you and pulling your hair, what I would do is get down to her level and look her in the eyes and tell her that she is not going to hit you and come up with a punishment when she does….what we do with our kids, is take away their favorite toy and put it somewhere where they can see but can't get to it. The main thing is get it under control now while she is young because it is only going to get worse as she gets older.
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9. June B Says:
   December 27th, 2008 at 5:33 am

   Have you noticed that the tantrums come when your child is tired or hungry? If so, a nap or a snack may prevent him from having a meltdown.

   As he becomes more verbal, he will be able to communicate his needs to you in a more appropriate way. Hang in there. This phase will pass.
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10. MzH4EvA S Says:
    December 27th, 2008 at 5:46 am

    Walk out of the room whenever she starts tantrums and go in your room or somewhere like that and wait until she stops.
    Eventually she will get that you don't like what she does and she will stop. Don't know if it will work but just try it.

    Good luck
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