15 Responses

1. Robin P Says:
   September 30th, 2008 at 3:50 am

   stop sweating the small things in life,they aren't worth it,life is to short to be angry all the time.
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2. sab Says:
   September 30th, 2008 at 4:09 am

   Find an Anger management class/group. Try the old "count to ten" regimen. Find alternative ways to handle stress. Walk away from the situation. A therapist or psychologist may be able to assist you as well! Good luck!
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3. EL Big Ed Says:
   September 30th, 2008 at 4:30 am

   walk away
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4. nighthawk19 Says:
   September 30th, 2008 at 5:06 am

   get a punching bag
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5. dickn2000 Says:
   September 30th, 2008 at 5:45 am

   Sedatives work for me!!
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6. Curpow Says:
   September 30th, 2008 at 6:10 am

   You should really see a Psychiatrist. They can put you in an anger management group to give you coping skills. I'd say just count to 10, but it's not always that simple.
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   http://www.anger-management-techniques.org/

7. igloo_iain Says:
   September 30th, 2008 at 6:50 am

   Deep breathing.
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8. kecik_dws Says:
   September 30th, 2008 at 7:21 am

   i usualy look away for awhile count till ten.. if that still doesn work, i start to think of happy thoughts..
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9. gaijin2060 Says:
   September 30th, 2008 at 7:48 am

   You could try some Buddhist meditation every day to start with. Also, reviewing why you lose your temper and analyzing the way you react might help.
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10. dzeyoyo123 Says:
    September 30th, 2008 at 8:05 am

    seriously like the guy above me said ….. get a punching bag and wail on it every night …. it really gets it out of your system
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11. mosquitojammer Says:
    September 30th, 2008 at 8:37 am

    Kick your desk 5 times
    then yell son of a *****
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12. norwood Says:
    September 30th, 2008 at 9:14 am

    there is nothing on a job that important…let those things flow like water on a ducks' back
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13. lilou Says:
    September 30th, 2008 at 9:42 am

    close your eyes, and breathe.
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14. organic gardener Says:
    September 30th, 2008 at 10:07 am

    Figure out what is making you feel angry. Think before you go off on a tangent. It is called putting your mouth in motion before engaging you brain in gear when someone goes off and say things in anger. Count to a certain number if you need to before saying a word. It will take practice and patience to overcome a bad temper. Only if you try very hard will you be able to do this. So, hang in there and do your best to keep your cool. I hope this helps.
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15. jane_749 Says:
    September 30th, 2008 at 10:40 am

    there was a classic example used in my psychology class, of a person who puts a coin in a vending machine and nothing comes out… that is frustration. There are various ways to deal with frustration, some better and more effective than others. We can just kick the machine, which rarely works. We can look at it and try to figure out why it is not working, and think about what we might be able to do to fix it. We can call the number on the machine to get a refund.

    The alternatives mentioned above are in the category of problem solving skills,, similar to conflict resolution skills. Especially if we come from a background that is dysfunctional we might not have very good constructive problem solving or conflict resolution skills, and revert back to the more primitive 'kick the machine' types of aggressive and controlling attempts.

    controlling your temper involves learning better skills when you are frustrated. To learn these you need counseling in that regard, and can call your local mental health clinic to find out what is available in your area.

    I had the same problem, and one thing I did was to go through a program called AVP, Alternatives to Violence Program. I was not in jail. I took it with a local Quaker group, and then I did the second part of it that was held in a jail : http://www.avpusa.org/

    I also participated in a local conflict mediation series of workshops.

    there are conflict resolution courses,,, here are links:

    http://www.crnhq.org/twelveskills.html

    http://www.grad.ubc.ca/gradpd/guides/conflict.html
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