How to Rebuild your Life After Divorce
March 1st, 2009 by admin
Thousands of people have gone through divorce, so you are not the only one. Divorce is not the end of your life, it is just the end of a marriage. You have other things that you need to focus on, rather than you marriage. If you have children for example, this is a great time to start focusing on them more.
Many people will find that it is hard to let go of their feelings during a divorce. They become angry and feel like they will lose control at any moment. Don’t forget that there are thousands of people who feel this way. What you need to do is to seek therapy to help you control your temper and feelings of rage. This way you’ll learn how to get along with your ex partner for the sake of the children.
After divorce, you may find that your self-esteem is completely gone. The most important step for rebuilding your esteem after divorce is to let go. You must place the past in the past and start to think about how you can improve the way you feel about yourself.
Never beat yourself down. It is not your fault, it’s not anyone’s fault, perhaps you just had a bad relationship. Don’t think about the past â think about the future. Learn to use positive words to describe your personality (like smart, attractive, aspirational, etc). You image of yourself will effect your life very much. Sometimes it’s better to be on your own and follow your own path, rather than following someone else. Your self-esteem will rise because you are an independent person.
One the most important lessons that you will learn from divorce is you are much stronger than you think. Going though all that you have, you will become a stronger individual. Now, you will be able to handle situations that you usually wouldn’t think you could handle. Divorce definitely makes you stronger.
Pax Shumway
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March 1st, 2009 at 6:47 am
Tell me what you did to rebuild a new you after your divorce. Men or women please.?
I would like to know the different things people have done to rebuild their lives after divorce. You can't have what was your life back, so what exactly did you do to construct a new one, and hopefully better or as good as one as before?
March 1st, 2009 at 11:49 am
sex with strangers . . then a dope habit . . more sex (for dope) . . then I got a job & bought a house.
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March 1st, 2009 at 11:51 am
remember that all that time with the first marriage has made you better not worse. And realize that there are plenty of men who will go out with you even if you have kids.
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March 1st, 2009 at 11:53 am
I got back into art, being creative. A hobby is good I've heard, but definantly dont hook up soon. It is also true, that time heals all wounds.
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March 1st, 2009 at 11:55 am
I'm at the beginning of this process of rebuilding, but I can tell you what I've done so far….
I quit college, with only one and a half semesters to go until I got my bachelors, because my then-fiance, now ex-husband, wanted me to. I've now re-enrolled in college and, even though it will take me another two years to get my degree, I am commited to getting it, so I can get out of the minimum wage slump that I am currently in and get the life that I want.
Basically, find your focus in life, and where you want to be, and use this once in a lifetime opportunity to get it. Good luck.
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March 1st, 2009 at 11:57 am
I continued with school, kept working, and started living life for me. Life went on. I hurt for awhile, but I'm happy and content now….
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March 1st, 2009 at 11:59 am
i cannot advise but i can say that after my divorce i needed to prove my sexual prowess which in hind sight may not have been the best thing to do. i got therapy ,i changed my life to be honest with myself and my close friends, got a hobby and let time heal the hurt.
different strokes for different folks.
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March 1st, 2009 at 12:01 pm
1. learned from my mistakes and his
2. got some counseling
3. educated myself
4. surounded myself with supportive people
5. married a great guy
6. had some great kids
7. got on with my life even when I wanted to lay in bed and whine
not necesarily in that order…
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been there done that
March 1st, 2009 at 12:03 pm
Get an education, and a greater earning possibility. Go out with the girls, and have fun flirting. Workout, take up a martial art so you can find stregnth and confidence. Do alot of soul searching. Figure out who you are and what you need out of life.
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March 1st, 2009 at 12:05 pm
Toss out all of the little "momentos" Keep the functional stuff (you wouldn't want to toss out a perfectly good car). Above all, don't wallow and get on with your life. I've done it (divorced that is) twice now and believe me, living well is the best revenge. IT'LL DRIVE THEM NUTS IF YOU DON'T CALL EVERYDAY. They'll wonder what they are doing wrong. (it works)
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twice divorced
March 1st, 2009 at 12:07 pm
1. I bought a house.
2. I got a new job.
3. I went back to school.
4. I started making new friends not associated with my marriage.
5. I went to a counselor for help to get over it.
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March 1st, 2009 at 12:09 pm
I think everyone is different n depending on the reason for the divorce play a key role in bouncing back…….Everyone need some amount of time….Im thinking it your confidence thats takes the blow when a relationship goes bad or divorce.rebuilding is not easy and i believe it a day at a time sorta thing .but b yourself ,,,,,,,,, do for yourself………. when one is happy with ones self then u have the ability to be happy with someone else…………..
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March 1st, 2009 at 12:11 pm
For me after I succumbed to my former wife's wishes to divorce,I was really devastated,life must go on,I realized self pity wasn't for me,so I tucked my head in and BARRELLED on,I didn't look for a replacement(per say) she found me,I kept busy worked ,exercised( was the best REMEDY) find a past time you enjoy.and when you do meet the NEW person,I LEARNED from my prior marriage ,don't repeat any of the mistakes I/we did,
I meet my current wife thru my exercising and have been HAPPY ever since,I would say the best thing for you is to
"NOT stay at home,GET OUT of the house,there's a WHOLE WORLD out there for you" waiting for YOU !!
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Been there DONE that..
March 1st, 2009 at 12:13 pm
I'm with you, just starting and not sure what I'll do. It's so scary, like jumping inot a big black hole head first. I have three kids and I guess we'll just have to make our own life. People keep saying life isn't over but it sure feels like it.
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March 1st, 2009 at 12:15 pm
Good advice so far. I worked hard at trying to figure out what poor decisions on my part led me into the mess. Did a heck of a lot better but it took a long time.
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