How do I handle someone who cant control his temper?
May 1st, 2009 by adminand what do i do when he explodes..?!
You do not "handle" someone who can't control his temper. They must "handle" or rather "control" themselves. If they do not control themselves, then you should get yourself as far away from them as you can get so that when they do "explode", you will not be the one to get burned.
What do you do when he explodes? If he engages in any illegal behavior such as laying a single finger on you in a aggressive manner, throwing objects at you, making verbal threats to physically harm you, you call the police, have him arrested, and get a restraining order to prevent him from coming within x number of feet from you in future. If he tries to come around again, you call the police to have him arrested for violating that restraining order. If he is not yet at the point where he is breaking the law, then you look him straight in the eye and tell him that you deserve to be treated with respect and you will not tolerate this behavior ONE MORE SECOND. Then you either walk out the door yourself, or hold it open and invite him to leave. Tell him firmly that he knows where to find you when he has gotten himself under control and can behave in a civilized fashion.
The term for someone who tolerates physical or emotional abuse is "co-dependent". By accepting and not confronting this behavior, you send a message to the abuser that this behavior is acceptable. Abusive behavior tends to get worse over time. A bruise may become a broken arm or a choking incident. Insults may give way to threats to kill you. Both you and the abuser will be better off if the cycle is interrupted before he does something that can get him thrown in prison.
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May 1st, 2009 at 12:47 pm
you dont handle someone who has that problem, you stay away from them unless you want your life ruened. My ex was that way.
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May 1st, 2009 at 12:59 pm
If it is your boyfriend, break up with him as gently as possible.
If its a family member, try not to argue with him or provoke him in anyway. When he is calm suggest that he seek some help for his bad temper.
I hope you are not in danger talk to someone if you are.
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May 1st, 2009 at 1:17 pm
You do the same thing you do when you find a live bomb. You get away from it and leave it to the experts.
At some point, the guy might notice he doesn't have any friends.
Don't hang around jerks.
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May 1st, 2009 at 2:06 pm
be careful cause sometimes a person who has a bad temper they can't control may start to get physical. they may start doing stuff like throwing or hitting things or even being abusive to other people
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May 1st, 2009 at 2:51 pm
Depends on who it is.
Boyfriend-Leave
Family- get outside help like a school counselor/therapist.
Friend- talk calmly and rationally without fear.
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experience
May 1st, 2009 at 3:01 pm
You do not "handle" someone who can't control his temper. They must "handle" or rather "control" themselves. If they do not control themselves, then you should get yourself as far away from them as you can get so that when they do "explode", you will not be the one to get burned.
What do you do when he explodes? If he engages in any illegal behavior such as laying a single finger on you in a aggressive manner, throwing objects at you, making verbal threats to physically harm you, you call the police, have him arrested, and get a restraining order to prevent him from coming within x number of feet from you in future. If he tries to come around again, you call the police to have him arrested for violating that restraining order. If he is not yet at the point where he is breaking the law, then you look him straight in the eye and tell him that you deserve to be treated with respect and you will not tolerate this behavior ONE MORE SECOND. Then you either walk out the door yourself, or hold it open and invite him to leave. Tell him firmly that he knows where to find you when he has gotten himself under control and can behave in a civilized fashion.
The term for someone who tolerates physical or emotional abuse is "co-dependent". By accepting and not confronting this behavior, you send a message to the abuser that this behavior is acceptable. Abusive behavior tends to get worse over time. A bruise may become a broken arm or a choking incident. Insults may give way to threats to kill you. Both you and the abuser will be better off if the cycle is interrupted before he does something that can get him thrown in prison.
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May 1st, 2009 at 3:42 pm
Walk away from that person for good.
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