How do I control my TEMPER?
May 10th, 2009 by adminI don't know my temper but I get really irritated inside my head and it bugs the hell out of me. And I always get irritated with people who love and care for me. What is my problem? I want to be nice and do things for my loved ones willingly but I feel nothing but annoyed. Now I don't show it but I feel so HEATED inside my head. What can I do to control this?
hi there,
you have to ask yourself the following questions:
1. what thoughts are in your mind when you start to feel annoyed?
2. why do you feel annoyed at your loved ones?
3. what is bothering you inside?
remember just because you FEEL irritated doesn't mean you have to ACT irritated…….your feelings can play tricks on you, when you feel irritated, stop, breathe, and ask yourself ok, WHY do i feel irritated right now? what happened today that im mad about? what happened yesterday or the day before?
Try to pinpoint what is irritating you or annoying you, say you are mad at something that happened at school or work, or you had a fight with a friend, you have to separate it from your home life……..you take a deep breath and say ok i am irritated, annoyed at this and that……but i love my family and although i feel this feelings inside doesn't mean i have to act on them………
before you say or do something hurtful, breathe and play it out in your head the consequences and how bad you will feel…….
also how irritated are you on a scale of 1-10, give it a number, ok on a scale of 1-10 im really feeling irritable and annoyed about a 9, but i dont want to feel this way, i am going to put on some happy music, go for a long brisk walk, watch a funny movie, watch funny vid's on youtube………after you do some that, now what is the number ?
realizing you have temper problems is the first step, at least you admit it!!! you have the courage to want to change and that's a great thing!!
good luck !!!!
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May 10th, 2009 at 7:33 pm
Think about what you're going to do or say before you do it that way you won't regret it.
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May 10th, 2009 at 7:54 pm
hi there,
you have to ask yourself the following questions:
1. what thoughts are in your mind when you start to feel annoyed?
2. why do you feel annoyed at your loved ones?
3. what is bothering you inside?
remember just because you FEEL irritated doesn't mean you have to ACT irritated…….your feelings can play tricks on you, when you feel irritated, stop, breathe, and ask yourself ok, WHY do i feel irritated right now? what happened today that im mad about? what happened yesterday or the day before?
Try to pinpoint what is irritating you or annoying you, say you are mad at something that happened at school or work, or you had a fight with a friend, you have to separate it from your home life……..you take a deep breath and say ok i am irritated, annoyed at this and that……but i love my family and although i feel this feelings inside doesn't mean i have to act on them………
before you say or do something hurtful, breathe and play it out in your head the consequences and how bad you will feel…….
also how irritated are you on a scale of 1-10, give it a number, ok on a scale of 1-10 im really feeling irritable and annoyed about a 9, but i dont want to feel this way, i am going to put on some happy music, go for a long brisk walk, watch a funny movie, watch funny vid's on youtube………after you do some that, now what is the number ?
realizing you have temper problems is the first step, at least you admit it!!! you have the courage to want to change and that's a great thing!!
good luck !!!!
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goes to therapy
May 10th, 2009 at 8:23 pm
I'm the same in a lot of ways. I don't like to be angry with people, but I let things get built up in my head. Best thing I do to deal with it is to wrk out. I got to the gym a lot and just try to get away. If you find anything better, let me know haha.
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