The pregnancy hormones are REALLY kicking in and I HATE everyone and everything and I want to kick the cutest puppy I can find!!! (good thing I don't know where any dog are, eh???)

I feel ya. I feel like just feeding everyone a big bowl of cereal. PLEASE HELP YOURSELVES TO SECONDS!!!!!!

Although it is very common, watching toddlers holding their breath can be a frightful thing for a parent to experience. Some call it the ‘nuclear option’ in a child’s weaponry. About 20 percent of toddlers use this technique to express their discontent or to get what they want – and considering the effect, they often do.

These spells are usually part of a child’s temper tantrums. Here are a few common signs to look out for:

• Breathing out forcefully followed by holding breath for a long time

• Turning pale or blue

Soon after one of the above signs show up, chances are your toddlers will pass out and collapse to the ground. In some cases, your toddler’s legs and arms may twitch and the body may suffer mild convolutions. This situation usually lasts for under a minute and is not a medical condition over which you should be worried.

Even though this is a common tantrum it should be stringently discouraged. Here are a few tips on how to avoid a breath-holding tantrum in your toddler:

• Do not pay overmuch attention to such tantrums.

• Find out the possible cause behind such behavior and eliminate the cause.

• Try to divert your toddler’s attention to a pleasant situation making the toddler forget the whole idea of breath holding.

If your toddler succumbs to this tantrum, remember:

• Do not panic—toddlers may take advantage of the fact that you are scared and resort to tantrums more often to get what they want.

• Make your toddler lie down to increase the flow of blood to the brain and within seconds it will be alright.

• The first time this happens, you may consider taking your toddler to the doctor to ensure it is a breath-holding tantrum indeed.

Paul Banas
http://www.articlesbase.com/home-and-family-articles/breathholding-in-toddlers-129756.html

Anger management is a learned skill, so it is more common in youngsters and teens, who have not learned good coping skills to deal with their anger. Should you feel you are at risk of losing your temper in a way that could harm you, or others, you should always seek professional help. Ask your parents, pastor, physician, school counselor, or a trusted, responsible friend for help.

Whether it is road rage, a provoked emotional outpouring of anger, or losing your temper over something silly, every one of us have lost our tempers at one time or another. Anger management only becomes an issue when we are no longer able to control our anger, and have destructive outbursts. A destructive outburst does not necessarily mean that you have broken something, or physically hurt someone, as a manifestation of your anger, it just means that, because of your inability to control your angry responses to a real or perceived stimulus, you have done something harmful to someone, something, or even to yourself.

When your anger controls you, you may feel you are at the mercy of something that you can not control. Anger can cause you to do things you normally would never do, and even things you could regret for the rest of your life. Anger can even affect your physical well-being in more ways than one. Studies have shown that anger causes your heart rate and blood pressure to rise. Hormones, like adrenaline and noradrenaline, also rise when you are angry. Anger can push you backwards emotionally, into the cave men era, when the fight or flight response was the only way to stay alive in an uncivilized world, so not only does uncontrolled anger effect your life in the areas of your personal relationships with others, it effects you physically as well.

In order to develop good anger management techniques, you must first understand what provokes anger, and the bodys natural response to anger. Anger is precipitated by the bodys natural chemical responses to increased physical arousal, emotions, and accompanying behaviors, that result when a person feels threatened, or perceives a threat or loss. The threat does not necessarily have to be a threat of personal, physical harm. It can be a threat to their self-esteem, when they believe their feelings are challenged or discounted by another.

The body naturally responds to any perceived threat by producing adrenalin to prepare for “fight or flight.” How a particular person responds to these threats is due, in large, to how they have been conditioned as a child or learned later in life, whether with good anger management techniques or negative ones. Many abuse victims are conditioned to respond violently, and learn verbal, mental, or physically abusive behaviors from others, and never develop positive anger management techniques.

Every person alive has triggers that set off their anger. Here are the most common reasons people become angry:

- A threat to their values (disagreeing with something someone is doing, such as kicking a dog, or not following the rules)
- When someone insists they do something they don’t want to do
- When someone hurts or betrays them, and they feel a loss of trust
- When they attempt to escape guilty feelings over something they do not want to feel or admit to themselves
- When they believe their feelings are discounted, and their sense of self esteem is compromised
- When expectations are not met (realistic, or unrealistic expectations) and they don’t get their way

School shootings, physical violence among families, friends, associates, and loved ones, are proof and manifestations of the fact that poor anger management is on the rise. Whether you blame the increase in anger related crimes, such as assault, murder, rape, physical and emotional abuse, on a lack of parental supervision, violence in video games or television, or other causes, the manifestations of poor anger management are becoming more and more commonplace, and increasing numbers of people are seeking professional help to gain control of the destructive effects of poor anger management.

Both internal and external events can cause anger. Anger can be directed at a specific person (a friend, teacher, or parent) an event (academic challenges, loss of a loved one) or by frustration or worry over personal problems. There are many common causes for anger in school. Young people are easily frustrated and become angry when faced with difficult challenges. It is hard not to get angry when you feel you do not fit in, do not understand an assignment or project, when you fail a test, or fail to reach a goal. Frustration can lead to anger. Many students get angry at their parents or teachers, because they don’t feel the rules are fair. Sometimes anger occurs, without even knowing exactly why you are angry. There are times it cannot be controlled and this is when we should seek help.

The worst thing you can do is deny your anger. While you want to learn to manage your anger, so that your anger does not cause you to do harmful things to yourself or others, when you hold your feelings inside, they can lead to an explosion, and the only way to prevent that, is to learn good anger management techniques.

Mature people try to practice positive ways to deal with their anger in an argument. One positive way to deal with anger against loved ones is to make a contract that they can leave during a fight, whenever they feel that they might lose control. Just go to a private place for time out. In private they do damage control techniques like waiting out the initial rush of the anger, and trying to think from the other persons viewpoint, to bring their anger level down and then return to deal with the problem.

Accepting that you have an anger prone personality and recognizing the need to actively work toward anger management in order to live a happier life, makes the difference in managing anger successfully. A commitment to study and take parenting classes to seek more effective ways of disciplining their children, taking anger management classes, and participating in couples counseling, helps to learn better ways of being with the people they work and live with.

Some people with high degrees of frustration keep tabs on themselves and work at diffusing their anger responses. They will use positive anger management methods; because their conscience tells them that their outbursts hurt others. Some people recognize that they are acting out angry responses they learned from their own parents, and sending that legacy down to their own children. Some get help because their partner gives them the ultimatum of threatening to leave them if they do not get help. A few get help only after they lose their spouse and families, but sadly, some never learn anger management methods that could save their families, if not their own lives.

Dennis Cole
http://www.articlesbase.com/non-fiction-articles/learn-about-anger-management-for-better-wellness-96474.html

It’s perfectly normal to get angry with your kids -because kids know just what buttons to push and they push them!

I think as a parent and as a professional parent coach, it helps to accept that anger is an honest emotion, but it?s what you choose to do with your anger that?s important.

If you don?t express your anger and you suppress it, it can lead to frustration, resentment, bitterness, a sense of hopelessness and depression which is not a good thing for you or your children long term

Resentment builds walls between your children.

So, how do you handle your anger and release your temper healthily?

Well, one way is to press your internal and imaginary ?pause button? like the one on your DVD and ask yourself ?What exactly am I annoyed about?? This helps you step back from the situation that you find yourself in -immediately distancing you and getting you back in control and helping to calm you down.

You will probably discover that you get wound up by the same things over and over again and this is a great opportunity to ask yourself another empowering question.

?What would I like to see happen in a perfect world?? as this helps you start focusing on a new solution to your frustration. Relax and start to breathe slowly and deeply as this too takes the edge out of the anger and get very, very specific about what it is you want to see happen - this gives you clarity and direction and helps you pass this on to your children who don?t often understand what exactly it is you want them to do.

Also ask yourself ?Is my attitude moving me closer to or further away from the relationship I want with my children long term??

This question takes you immediately out of the mundane and humdrum into the bigger picture to your parenting. It immediately changes your perspective which is extremely powerful and helpful.

Another positive step to take is to talk openly and honestly to your child about how you are feeling and to release your pent up emotion - you can say something like:

?I?m tired telling you this over and over again because I feel???

?I?m angry with you because ?..?

?I?m hurt because you did?..?

This teaches your child about empathy and immediately takes the emotional charge out of your own energy and frustration.

If you feel like screaming and shouting at your kids then your own anger has been building up for a long time.

A helpful strategy to explore is talking to a mirror. Get a mirror and imagine talking to the other person as if they were looking at you in that mirror. Imagine them sitting calmly, attentively and in a relaxed state listening to you properly. Tell them exactly how you feel - pour out your heart - speak truthfully - explain all the frustration, anger, hurt or disappointment. Imagine a rainbow bridging the gap of misunderstanding.

The important aspect of these different techniques is to get all your feelings out in a safe and healthy way.

Some people hit pillows, bounce on the bed, hit golf balls in the garden or go for a long hard walk round the block - I have even been known to go into a cupboard and have a good swear to myself! Do something physical to release your charged -up emotions. Don?t be reckless or dangerous to yourself or your child. Just step back, breathe deeply and slowly and find what suits you and experiment with it - you can even make yourself laugh after you look or sound ridiculous - which is great way to change your state too.

Don?t be afraid to let your anger take its natural course - there?s no need to feel guilt and shame because your thoughts are your feelings in action or motion. That?s why some people describe them as e-motion.

Your anger can be a really positive opportunity to serve a purpose to find out what?s really worrying you deep down. Just stop and ask yourself ?What am I so angry about?? You will get clarity from asking that question which will help you identify what you?d like to change. It?s usually something small that can make a big difference in your life and help you move forward -not stay stuck.

Once you?ve expressed your anger about the behaviour that you don?t like in your child, never use a personal vitriolic attack as it damages your child?s self esteem, do your best to forgive your child and to forgive yourself - have a hug, say sorry and move on to learn the lesson from the experience.

Maybe you?re a person who?s been angry for a major part of your life or for a long time. I call this ?habitual anger? because you?ve got used to behaving in this way so it?s become a habit.

Habitual anger is trying to tell you something - ask yourself some better questions - questions that empower you and give you an insight into yourself:

? Why am I choosing to be angry all the time?

? What am I doing to create these situations time and time again?

? What is it that?s making me angry?

? Who am I really angry at?

? What do I believe about my life that causes all these frustrations?

? Is this the only way I can react to life?

? What could I do differently?

? How could I feel more in control of my life?

Being permanently angry isn’t good for you. So it?s really a great relief when you start to understand what?s causing it and start to make some small changes to help you feel more in control of your life generally. It?s recognising that by asking yourself better questions you can start to find some new answers.

Many women and particularly Mums have been taught that to be angry was something bad and unacceptable and that to lose your temper meant you were a ?Bad Person? or a ?Bad Parent.? So, many Mums have learnt to feel guilty and to swallow their anger rather than express it healthily.

This is an unhealthy way to handle your anger as it can turn inwards and make you feel unhappy, helpless, stuck, depressed and generally out of control of your life. So acknowledge that it?s perfectly normal to lose your temper sometimes and find a strategy or technique that suits you to release it safely.

You are a role model for your children in everything that you do so teach them how to handle anger and frustration healthily and talk about it with them.

What better gift can you give your children?

Sue Atkins
http://www.articlesbase.com/home-and-family-articles/handling-your-temper-positively-242981.html

he was getting a little heated when he was giving his speech. i thought he might go off and deck someone. is he losing control of himself already?

Nope, the Passion is back, and he has learned–in two short weeks–that to try and placate the republicans time and time again will get him nothing but knives in the back, and he has decided instead to placate the voters who voted him into office, and give them the change that they want, and voted for.
Bravo, bravo, bravo.

I think hes too old to control anything right now! can ya feel me

I'm trying to write a 10-12 paragraph for a topic on Losing your temper.

Write on anger management
Start the first paragraph…
All of us at one time or another have lost our temper. When one has no coping skills or refuses to see the reality of what it is that is causing this temperment, he may need to look to a neutral party for coping skills or just to talk.

I have lost all respect for that man.

Yeah, I listened to it on perezhilton.com

What a douche bag.

I have a extreme anger and quick temper issue that i need to find help with

A nutritionist and an allergist. A lot of mood disorders are due to either food allergies causing issues in the body or nutritional deficiencies, which can also be caused by food allergies. Read this article to see what I mean: http://www.nutritionj.com/content/7/1/2