I sometimes find myself in a situation where I am very angry whilst at school and I struggle to find a way to calm down. I can be angry for hours afterwards. But i don’t know how to cool down any ideas?

I’m a teacher, and have a student with a similar problem. I sat down to talk with her one day, and we decided that if she just let me know where she was going, she could take a breather from class for a couple of minutes if she needed to. Every once in a while she will get frustrated, and just take a walk around the school, go to the bathroom, or go sit in another teacher’s classroom for a few minutes to cool off. It has helped tremendously. Maybe you can speak to your teachers and work out something like this?

The Second Chance Program in Albuquerque, New Mexico, is a prison-based social rehab program. This program uses a manualized treatment approach rather than a counselor driven treatment criminal rehab program. These manuals are delivered as courses, addressing common insufficiencies found in offenders. Rick Pendery, who opened the center in New Mexico, is the national director of the Second Chance Centers and has piloted the program successfully over the past six years.

“The courses we deliver as part of this criminal and drug rehab program, specifically deal with common deficits found in those with criminal behavior difficulties and substance abuse histories, such as social behavioral skills, life skills, and the development of moral values and restoration of self-esteem.”, Pendery explains. “The address of which has been found to have a positive impact on the development of pro-social behaviors and reduced recidivism. Previous outcome studies on this treatment method have demonstrated equal success for a variety of commonly abused street drugs and alcohol.”

The Second Chance Program includes four modules, handling drug rehabilitation, learning skills, self respect and a reintegration model. One of the beginning steps of the drug rehab module is a communication course that emphasizes the application of the communication tools that are taught, especially confront drills.

A current inmate, Julio, has been in the prison system for over 10 years and had an inhalant addiction. He was referred to the Second Chance program by his social worker for the public defenders office. He is more than half-way through the program now and has hope for a new life when he completes his sentence. He explains, “After completing the communication course, I realize it has been a substantial win in a couple of areas. Obviously, 34 days ago it was very hard to envision completing all of the requirements of the communication booklet. Many days it just seemed easier to quit and go back to County. But then I realized how the very communication drills I was studying were the keys to helping me get through those frustrating urges to quit.”

The drills include confronting a person (sitting comfortably, looking eye to eye) until the student has no negative reaction to looking at another person, sometimes for many hours at a time. The Communication Course module is based on the research of L. Ron Hubbard, the founder of Scientology.

Pendery explains, “Our course in communication skills has many, many drills, including ones covering the areas of handling rebellious people and the ability to accurately determine the level of force necessary to handle a situation. As most of our students have histories of lack of self-control and of relying on force in lieu of communication, these drills address the use of communication and intention in handling life situations rather than confrontation and force. The practical course drills show them how, if in a position where force is necessary, to be able to use force dispassionately and with discipline and self-control, rather than “flying off the handle” or “losing their temper” and only as far as needed to allow communication to occur.”

Julio explains his use, “By applying the Training Routines, I experienced a first-hand example of how the techniques in the training drills help me to stay in control of the outcome of various situation and circumstances that I once allowed to run out of control. My blood test situation, my baby’s mama drama and my negative mentality have all been alleviated because of my persistence in learning, drilling, passing and completing this first book. But even more important, is my new gained ability to communicate in a higher quality, not being personally affected by someone’s communication being thrown off, and being able to regain control of the communication, handle the person or situation and bringing the communication back to a level where it is pleasant, effective and stable.”

Jayden Adams
http://www.articlesbase.com/news-and-society-articles/incarcerated-offender-is-taught-vital-communication-skills-as-part-of-rehab-120464.html

Many of us live in different areas than the rest of our family. Many of us live several states away from Mom and Dad and there are some of us that require flight time as part of our holiday ritual. For those of us that have to travel to other countries during the holiday season, flying could be tougher than at other times of the year. Here are a few tips for world travel during the holidays.

First of all, keep your smiling face on during your airport experience. In the airport, the employees have all of the answers and they have all of the power. When you are already running late or sense the upcoming delay in your flight, it is easy to lose patience with these scrooges, but keeping your temper in check could be very beneficial. After all, everything that goes wrong in your life is not their fault, it just seems that way at the moment. Keep in mind that being super nice during a not-so-great situation could mean “free upgrade” and being not so nice could result in lost luggage, or even worse, a full body search as you are “randomly” picked out of the line.

If you have the opportunity, fly during off peak hours. It may be a little inconvenient to have to leave out in the middle of the night, but it could mean beating a huge crowd of people in the airport. Plus if you leave your home airport in the middle of the night, after the time differences (or the international date line) you may be arriving at your destination at a great time of day. Better yet, it could be discounted tickets for those “Red-Eye” flights.

Have something to do while you wait. Inevitably, on an international flight, you are going to have some delays here and there. It could be a four hour layover in Denver or a 30 minute wait at the gate for the boarding to begin, but waits are highly likely. If you have something to read or something interesting to keep your mind busy and occupied, those wait times will seemingly be cut in half. Plus, keeping your mind busy helps you to keep you patience, which takes us back to the number one tip of being nice to airport employees.

Keep security in mind. Post 9/11 security has been greatly increased on all flights, both foreign and domestic. In order to keep things moving smoothly, it is best for you to check as much of your baggage as possible and don’t pack things that you know will trigger an alarm of any kind. Wear shoes that are both comfortable and easily removed and replaced. Have all liquids pre-bagged and remove your coats or jackets before prompted. These little things will help speed the security process and keep your patience in check.

Traveling with children could make everything difficult. Keeping them happy is not always the easiest task on your list of things to do on your world travel. Think about how bored and agitated you get while having to wait in lines and in terminals, then how bored you get on the plane, then multiply that by at least 20 - that is how your kids feel. Keep them occupied with small, quiet toys, coloring books, handheld video games or DVD players, etc. What ever will keep their attention and save your sanity.

Last but definitely not least is to ship your presents. I know it may seem like you could save money by just packing an extra suitcase and putting it on the plane with you, but in the long run, it really will be easier to just ship the gifts to grandma. Ship them several weeks in advance so that you know they get there before you ever leave the states. It is much less likely for the gifts to be lost by the postal services than for them to be lost in the “realm of lost luggage” that we all have heard of.

I hope these tips for world travel during the holidays have helped you to keep in check that temper that you know all too well. Keep in mind that everyone in the airport has a family and friends that they would like to spend the holiday with as well. Keep your attitude merry and bright, and remember, Santa Claus is watching you!

Nancy Arlington
http://www.articlesbase.com/travel-articles/the-stress-free-way-to-travel-during-the-holidays-130368.html

My oldest didn't do this at 12 months so I'm just curious.

My 12 month old started this at least a month ago. He now throws one each and every time we take him out of the bathtub, among other times.
Thanks guys! I'm fairly confident regarding how to handle them. My oldest just turned 4 so I have some practice, lol. I just remember him being closer to 16-18 months when his started- not "this" early!!!

Angela started throwing mini-tantrums about a month ago as well. The worst is when I take away her changing table toy…which is never really a toy (think: medicine dropper, nasal aspirator, digital thermometer, tube of diaper cream, etc). Only the "special" toys will distract her enough to sit still for a diaper change. If she doesn't get one, that's another tantrum.

Our kids really are a lot alike.

It can be on TV, but not an episode form a TV show or a movie. It has to be for real - from the news, from a sporting event or from real life.

Example: I arranged for my son to have his first tennis lesson at about age 8. When I came back to the court he was jumping up and down on the racket like a cartoon character.

Here is a clip of the lady that missed her flight.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xbVw7entkxg

In all honestly I would have to say myself at about age 12.
My father wanted me to brush my hair and put it in a pony tail. For whatever reason this idea put me over the edge. I proceeded to jump on his back biting him and hitting him. Looking back I am sure I must have looked like a wild monkey or something.

Second to that it would be my daughter. We have this rule that if you "must" throw a fit then you must go to your room and do it. I don't remember what she was upset about but she started flailing in the floor and I gave her the look. She proceeds to slither like a worm towards her room all the while screaming "I am going to my room to throw a fit."

Your attitude will determine your outcome. If you don’t have a positive attitude, you will never achieve your resolutions. Keep this in mind when you start toward any goal. Having the right attitude isn’t something that just happens. It is the result of a conscious effort. As you get dressed in the morning, you would never walk into your closet and say to your clothes, “Okay, time to jump aboard” and expect to be dressed. You know that you have to put your clothes on. Having a positive attitude is a similar process; you have to consciously put one on. You have to decide that you are going to be positive in your thoughts about yourself, others and the world you live in.

Here are 7 simple but powerful strategies to help you become a more positive person.

1. Wake Up Happy. I meet so many people who start their day off with negative statements like “I don’t want to go to work today.” “I don’t want to go to school.” “I’m so tired.” “I can’t wake up until I have my morning coffee.”
Train yourself to Wake Up Happy. You can sing in the shower or listen to music that is uplifting. You could have breakfast with someone you like who is positive and optimistic. You could have a morning prayer time or read a devotional.

By training yourself to wake up happy, you are setting the pace of your day. Don’t leave your attitude to be determined by other people or situations beyond your control. Start your day with a positive note.

2. Take Control Of Your Physiology. What I mean by this is that you pay attention to how you use your body. Walk or stand up straight. Walk 15% to 25% faster. Take full, deep breaths. Use a wider range of tonality and facial expressions. Maintain good eye contact. Observe people who you believe are positive and energetic. Notice how they carry themselves. Positive people carry themselves differently than negative people do. Think of times in your life in which you were feeling your best. Reflect back on your posture, the gestures you make, and your tone of voice. Learn how to master your previous positive states and mirror the physiology of those you want to emulate.

3. Your Language Determines Your Destiny. Make sure that your thoughts and words are positive. The language you use, whether spoken or not must be positive. People don’t know what you’re thinking but this doesn’t give you permission to be inconsistent. Line up your thoughts and words with the kind of person you want to be. The language you use can either build you up or psych you out. Any negative statement can be reframed in a more positive manner. Watch out for statements that predict negative outcomes.

Here are a few that will derail you every time: “I’m so nervous”, “I’m so depressed”, I have a bad temper”. If you are going to put labels on yourself, at least use empowering ones. Try these on and notice the difference. “I’m in excellent health and have boundless energy!” “I never get sick!” “I have unshakeable peace of mind!” “I’m a Great Wife!” “I’m a Great Husband!”

4. Look For The Good In Everyone You Meet And In Every Situation You Find Yourself In. I know it is harder to see in some people and in some situations but everyone has their good points and so will every situation.

5. Expect The Best Of Yourself And Others. Keep your mind tuned into the things you want and off of the things you don’t want. Your brain has a mechanism that is designed to notice things that are similar to your existing thoughts. Think of the last time you purchased a car. Do you remember prior to the purchase, you hadn’t noticed that many cars like yours but the moment you drive it off the car lot you start to see them all over the place. This is how it is when you expect the best. Your brain will lead you to the expectations you desire. Make sure your thoughts are tuned into positive things.

6. Associate With Winners. A winner is someone who is positive, optimistic, lives life to the fullest, and inspires you to be your best self. Strive to limit your interactions with negative people. Negative people will drain you of your energy and sense of hope.

7. Seek Out The Power Of Role Models. Stop trying to reinvent the wheel. Seek out people in our community who are excelling in the areas you want to better yourself. This can be a great parent or spouse, a successful business person, a strong spiritual example, or student. The paths to success have already been paved. If you follow them, you are sure to succeed as well. An outstanding role model can save you years of trial and error.

You can alter the course of your life by altering your attitude. Nothing can stop a person with a positive mental attitude from achieving their goals. On the flipside, nothing can help a person with a negative attitude. Commit yourself to starting off your todays with a positive attitude.

Mark Webb
http://www.articlesbase.com/motivational-articles/starting-off-with-a-positive-attitude-93004.html

Have you ever found yourself angry with people you care about and didn’t seem able to stop yourself? Do people who love you tell you that you have anger management issues? Have you lost some important relationships or created problems for yourself at work because you couldn’t seem to control your angry behavior?

If this describes you, then you need to regain control and stop yourself from hurting others. The first thing to do is to recognize that you are choosing your anger. What? Choosing my anger? Why in the world would I do that? Well, there are several reasons people may choose anger. Let’s see which one best describes you.

Some people use anger to intimidate others and subsequently get what they want. In this way, the angry person is able to control the behavior of others.

Some people use their anger as a way of getting attention. If a person needs attention, it doesn’t always matter whether that attention is positive or negative, as long as someone is noticing him or her.

Anger can also be used as a tactic to avoid responsibility. If a person doesn’t want to do something, anger can be a valid way to get out of it.

Similar to wanting attention, sometimes people are feeling small and insignificant and anger works to pump themselves up or provide courage to do something scary.

And others use it as an emotional release, much the same way a pressure cooker lets off steam. Anger has energy. When someone is experiencing things that are frustrating, he or she may not be dealing with his or her anger. Instead of processing it, cognitively restructuring some belief systems or working out the energy physically, anger can provide a much needed release valve.

Do you recognize yourself in any of those scenarios? When you lose your temper, which one of these reasons best identifies what you are trying to accomplish? Perhaps you have yet another reason. One thing I know for sure is that you always behave in your best attempt to get something you want. Your behavior is never random and it never “just happens” to you.

It’s a very subtle difference but an important one nonetheless. All behavior is proactive. You do not choose a behavior because of something that occurred outside of you. For example, I can remember asking my youngest son to clean his room. He said he would do it later-only later never came. So, I patiently asked him a second time. Again, he said he’d do it later. This went on for most of the day. Finally, in exasperation, I lost my temper with him and yelled at him about cleaning his room.

The question is why did I get angry? Most people would say I got angry because my son wouldn’t do what I asked. However, the real reason is that I used my anger as my best attempt to get my son to clean his room. (Just for the record, it didn’t work very well.)

Why am I making this seemingly insignificant distinction? Because once you become conscious of the reasons you are choosing your behavior, then you can consciously choose to do something more responsible and more effective.

More responsible means you are getting your needs met without interfering with other people meeting theirs. Effective means it actually works to get you what you really want.

When you use anger, it is not responsible because anger almost always interferes with the other person getting his or her needs met. You definitely have not only the right, but also the responsibility to get your needs met but not at the expense of someone else.

Underlying most reasons for choosing anger, you are probably attempting to improve an important relationship in your life. Anger will never work to do that. You may get the initial satisfaction of getting the other person to do your bidding, but you have damaged something in the relationship.

You must make a proactive plan about what you are going to do instead of using anger. It should be something that has at least an equal chance of getting you what you want while supporting others in their process of getting their own needs met.

Kim Olver
http://www.articlesbase.com/self-help-articles/anger-management-how-to-stay-calm-instead-of-losing-your-cool-92763.html

Defensive driving is probably the best way to ensure the safety of you, your passengers and your vehicle. Defensive driving describes the skill of being able to operate a motor vehicle in such a way that reduces the chance of being involved in an accident. The basic idea is simple - It involves being aware of, and taking various steps to avoid, all the potential hazards when you travel on the roads.

However in practice it involves much more than that. The first part relates to your ability as a driver. It involves training to improve your skills of vehicle control, observation, anticipation, temperament etc. This is the easy part as you have complete control over your side of the deal.

The second part recognises that although you may be able to control your actions at all times, there’s virtually nothing you can do to control the actions of other drivers. So a wide range of defensive techniques have been developed to enable you to cope with anything that may happen. These skills involve being alert and ready to react to the hazards that other road user create. The ultimate aim is to become proactive so that you can avoid getting into dangerous situations, instead of just reacting to dangers once they develop.

Here are the basics of defensive driving.

1) Be Prepared

This is one of the most important skills of defensive driving. If you’re constantly prepared for every situation that may develop while on the road, your chances of returning home safely will be much greater.

So before you begin any journey, make sure that your vehicle is properly prepared. Check the tyre pressure and the water, oil and gas levels. Make sure that all the lights and mirrors are working properly. And finally, don’t leave home without carrying a medical kit, basic tools such as a jack, spare bulbs and all the relevant documentation.

2) Be Seen

One of the best ways to improve your safety on the road is to make sure that other motorists see your car. If they’re aware of your vehicle and the space it occupies on the road, they’re less likely to collide with you.

This might sound rather obvious, but take a look at this amazing statistic - Most motorists only see 10% of cars that are on the roads around them. That means they see only one car in ten. Or more worryingly, they don’t see nine cars out of ten.

So to make sure other drivers see you, make full use of your lights. Of course it goes without saying that you should always use your headlights during lighting up times, but defensive driving goes beyond the bare legal minimum. For example, I’ve heard certain advanced drivers say that you should use your headlights at ALL times unless driving in full sunlight.

To see the benefit of this, next time you’re driving when it’s starting to get dark, pay close attention to the rest of the drivers on the road. I guarantee that you’ll be more likely to notice the first few drivers who have switched their headlights on.

And while we’re on the subject of being seen, when passing other cars, make sure that you spend as little time as possible in the blind spot of other drivers. If they’re not aware of your presence, they’re more likely to collide with your vehicle.

3) Create Space

The third principle of defensive driving is to create space between your vehicle and other motorists. This gives you extra leeway to avoid a collision with other road users if something unexpected happens.

For example, don’t follow too closely behind other vehicles. If they have to stop suddenly and you’re too close you’re more likely to hit their vehicle. So back off, use the three second rule. Whatever speed you’re doing, make sure that the vehicle in front of you is always three seconds ahead. As a rough guide, choose a roadside reference point and start counting when the vehicle in front passes it. If you pass the same point within three seconds, you’re too close and need to back off. During bad weather conditions such as snow and ice, this gap should be extended to five seconds to account for the longer stopping distances.

And finally, when on the road, use your common sense. For example, avoid getting too close to any vehicle that looks poorly maintained or has signs of accident damage. These are subtle clues that the owner of the vehicle is not a defensive driver and as such is more of a danger to your safety.

4) Remain Calm

Another important aspect of defensive driving is to avoid road rage, both in yourself and other motorists. Try to remain calm at all times and don’t react to the anger of other people that you encounter while on the roads. Your ability to remain calm and rational is directly linked to your ability to put the principles of defensive driving into practice and stay safe. If you lose your temper when behind the wheel, your safety will be in jeopardy.

These are just a few of the most basic aspects of driving defensively. To find out more about how to stay safe on the roads and enjoy your driving, take a look at some of the defensive driving courses, many of which are available online. They will save you money and perhaps even your life.

Charlie Moore
http://www.articlesbase.com/automotive-articles/defensive-driving-the-basics-130025.html

Many people nowadays living in a miserable life, most of them have no knowledge and have no idea on how to rebuild their broken dreams, lost hopes, and miserable lives.

Majority of this kind or group of people has no concept on how to stretch their God-given talents and skills because of tragedy that happens in their lives.

How about you? Do you want to stay forever as a garbage, junk, unproductive, and defeated individuals? Remember my dear readers, life is so short, why not encourage yourself to stand once again and prove to yourself and to those people around you that You Can If You Think You Can!

Dear readers, you have a lot of chances and opportunities to rebuild your broken dreams, lost hopes, lost reputations, and miserable lives. I encourage you, learn from your mistakes! And think of this: The Diamond cannot be polish without friction; nor man be perfected without trials. So take the trials, chaos, and tragedy in your life as a challenge and a stepping- stone to succeed in life!

Before your born, Our Loving and Merciful God has already a beautiful plan and dreams for you. God said in Jeremiah 29:11-13, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” The Lord adds, “Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me and find me, and I will listen to you. You will seek and find me when you seek with all your heart” (NIV).

I hope the above texts are enough to convince and encourage that you are a beautiful and unique creature and not a garbage, junk, and rug that other people may visualize of you. Below are the following keys, If you only faithfully follow its instruction and advise, it will help you to encourage and motivate yourself to THINK and GROW RICH!

1. Pray Daily. By praying and communicating to our Loving and Merciful God daily you can be able to ease, release all of the worries, pains, tensions of your life and find a good source of courage and strength to move on, to beat the odds in your life. If you’re feeling lonely, blue, and depressed, God said, “Call me and I will answer you and show the great and mighty things which you do not know” (Jeremiah 33:3 NKJV).

2. Avoid toxic, negative people. Avoid people who are fun of criticizing, gossiping and judging other people. The Word of God clearly remind you this, “Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character” (1 Corinthians 15:33 NIV). The Word of God further added and gave warning to “Stay away from a foolish man, for you will not find knowledge on his lips” (Proverbs 14:7 NIV).

But if you are the victims of the evilspeaking tongues of the negative, toxic people, I encouraged you…please do not take heed to that kind of garbage, junk individual but focus in your main goal to improve your life and succeed. Why I have told you that? Because me too before during my student’s life, I experience a lot of criticism but as a young man and historian who are thirsty and hunger for knowledge and wisdom, through reading the profiles and writings of the great wise men of the world, I discovered, come up and finally concluded that a statue has never been erected in honor for a critics!

I’ve found out that before any great accomplishment is achieved in reality, it’s believed in heart. If you need to hear the applause of the crowd, you have to begin your attack in the face of criticism, believing that the applause will come later.

3. Encourage yourself to have a dream. By dreaming and visualizing your ambition, it can help and assist you to attain your goal in life. Napoleon Hill, the greatest inspirational classical author whom I admired most reminds you that “Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul; the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.”

Dear readers always recall these, if you have a dreams hold to your dreams. If your dreams die, you’re like a wounded bird without a wing!

4. Know and Identify your Purpose. Ask yourself, what is the cause that makes you need to tackle, or desire to succeed in your plan and goal? Is it worthy enough to consume your energy, effort, time, and commitment? John Maxwell, My most favorite leadership author point out that, “Behind every great accomplishment is a purpose, not a wish. Our purpose puts the seasoning in life, and makes it tasty and exciting.” Maxwell added, “Person with a purpose does things out of the ordinary, above average. Personality doesn’t make a person extra-ordinary. Neither does intelligence nor education. What makes a person extra-ordinary is a purpose – the consuming desire to accomplish something in life.”

John Maxwell further added and gave an acrostic that may help you understand and remember what a sense of purpose will do for you, how it will lift you out of the realm of the ordinary. A purpose will cause you to:

Pray more than the ordinary person.

Unite more than the ordinary person.

Risk more than the ordinary person.

Plan more than the ordinary person.

Observe more than ordinary person.

Sacrifice more than ordinary person.

Expect more than the ordinary person.

5. Encourage yourself to socialize with the wise people and you will become wise! Encouraged yourself to socialize with the group of people who has a dream and ambition because you will learn from them and it can encourage and motivate yourself to move on, to strive hard for excellence. The Word of God my dear readers firmly convinced you to “…walks with the wise, grows wise, but a companion of fools (negative, toxic people) suffers harms” (Proverbs 13:20 NIV).

6. Encourage and teach yourself to value knowledge and wisdom. The late Ernie Baron, A Filipino great journalist once said “Knowledge is Power. No Knowledge, No Power” and the Word of God is strongly gave advised and encouraged that you should always value knowledge and wisdom if you’ve really want to succeed your adhering in life. The Book of Proverbs 4:7-9 exclaim “Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom. Through it cost all you have, get understanding. Esteem her, and she will exalt you; embrace her, and she will honor. She will set garland of grace on your head and present you with a crown of splendor” (NIV).

Remember, the best investment you can make is in you. You can make more money or acquire more of whatever you want by investing in you than in any other investment!

So, starting today, surround yourself with the best of good books, best of music, and best of wise people because knowledge and wisdom is supreme!

7. Encourage yourself the value of hard work. If you’d really desire to attain your goal, encourage yourself to exert more effort and work hard. The Word of God assert that, “All hard works brings a profit, but mere talks leads only to poverty “(Proverbs 13:23 NIV). The Word of Lord again expressed out and warned you, “Lazy hands make a man poor, but diligent hands bring wealth” (Proverbs 10:4 NIV).

Remember nothing worthwhile comes easily. Half effort does not produce half results. It produces no results, continuous work, hard work, is the only result that lasts!

8. Encourage and teach yourself the of value time. Remember time is not money because you cannot accumulate time. You cannot regain time lost. You cannot borrow time. So learn to use your time wisely. Think of this, life is so short; our life is like a vapor that appears for a moment and then disappears. Therefore, better live your best; act your best, and think your best today; for today is the sure preparation for tomorrow!

People, do not let your time pass without doing something good to yourself and to your fellowmen…remember time is short!

9. Take good care of your health. Except God, there is only one person who can be truly faithful, honest, and very loyal on you. That even in time of chaos, hardship and calamities who are always there to stay behind you through tick and thin no matter what happen and that is you! So, take good care of yourself, that is your only asset and only capital to succeed to your goals and dreams in life. Remember, Health is Wealth!

10. Don’t worry, be happy. Don’t worry about something that in reality does not really yet happens in your life. Instead of worrying, why not encourage yourself to think on how you can find a solution to solve your problems? Dr. Vincent Peal reminds you that, “Mental control is the secret of mature and creative judgment.” He added, “Your mind is an instrument designed to serve you, not to destroy you.” Dr. Peale warns that “When uncontrolled, your mind can be very damaging to you but when controlled it can developed unlimited power.”

Dr. Peale encourage you to “Know yourself. Control your mind. Think. Make right decisions. Never accept defeat. Believe in yourself. Mentally accept your great future. Never think of failing. Believe that you can if you think you can.”

Remember my dear readers, when you are at your weakest, God is in His greatest! So don’t worry, be happy!

11. Encourage and teach yourself to learn of controlling your tongue and temper. Many people put their lives into danger because of speaking without thinking and not learning on how to control and manage their temper. If you really want to succeed in your struggle in life, gain the support, gain the love, and gain the respect from the people around you, learn to manage your tongue and temper!

Think and ponder this for a moment, “Good understanding wins favor, but the way of the unfaithful is hard” (Proverbs 13:15 NIV). The Word of reminds you once again,, “He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks harshly will come to ruin” (Proverbs 13:3 NIV).

12. Let the Love and Faithfulness dwell in your heart. Our Great Almighty God encouraged should “Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man” (Proverbs 3:3-4 NIV).

13. Encourage and teach yourself to value other people. Remember the sayings readers “No man is an Island”. Enable for you to become successful in you’re adhering in life, you should learn to value other people. In book entitled Team Work Makes the Dreams Work, John Maxwell pointed out “Teamwork gives you the best opportunity to turn vision into reality.” And Andrew Carnegie, the author of the book How to Win Friends and Influenced People added “It marks a big step in your development when you come to realize that other people can help you do a better job than you could do alone”. Helen Keller, the blind woman who became a great educator further added “Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.”

The Word of God forcefully reminding us people, In the Book of Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 uttered, “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; But how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken” (NIV).

14. Trust and Make God be the Center of your Life. Solomon, a great wise man advised if your really longing to succeed in any games and challenge of life, you must learn, practice, and encourage yourself to “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3: 5-6 NIV). And put God in the center and everything will come together (Romans 8:28 NIV).

Starting today, if you will make God as the center of your life, God has a special promised for you. He will make you the head, not the tail. If you pay attention to the commands of the Lord your God that I give you this day and carefully follow them, you will always be at the top, never at the bottom! (Deuteronomy 28:11-13 NIV).

People remember John Maxwell reminds you that “The only person who can stop you from becoming what God intends you to become is you!

So, I encouraged you once again; Do your best always and God will do the rest!

And always recall this that the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams!

Wish you many blessings to come as well as God Bless us all!

Moises P. Reconalla

Moises Reconalla
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The Tibetans and shamans call them the Hungry Ghosts. We all know them quite well—too well! They are the voices of undoing—the “sirens” from Odysseus’ journey who would seduce us off course on our journey homeward. They are the demons who surface when we suddenly awaken in the middle of the night filled with doubts and fears. They are the nagging worries like flies buzzing around our mental bodies looking for sticky places to land. They are powerful and convincing, tempting us into believing that we can’t grow, heal, transform, change, or awaken. They feed off our negativity like turkey vultures feeding off dead carcasses. They would devour all of our positive energy if given half a chance. They are on the job twenty-four hours a day, always on the alert for times of vulnerability that create openings in our auric body like invitations to “set up shop,” distributing fearful messages. They are like gnats or black flies so small that even the finest screen mesh can’t filter them out of our energetic reality.

We often don’t realize we have been bitten by them until the damage is already done. When we awake in the morning depressed and discouraged—thinking that our life is a joke—they have left their mark, just as if we were covered with minute bee stings leaving us swollen, toxic and hurting. Perhaps Source created the nasty bites of insects to mirror the energetic impact of the hungry ghosts on our emotional, mental and spiritual bodies.

Some of us try to pretend they are not there. The oblivious innocents merrily go through the woods of life with no bug spray, assuming they are invulnerable to the swarms of energies hungry to dine on the human spirit—devouring its light as quickly as possible. These people are quickly brought to their knees, undone in their optimism. Here comes the spiritual crisis: “What kind of God would create a reality like this? Surely this God does not love us.” The hungry ghosts love this kind of thinking. For them it is food for a week as they whisper to us that we can’t possibly know our divinity.

‘The hungry ghosts are particularly activated when we make a conscious commitment to transform or heal an aspect of our souls, especially if our intentions are heightened through ritual. Bringing out the heavy artillery, they are ready to battle our determination to liberate ourselves. Working with the magnetism between the positive and negative poles is required to master duality.

Gathering the positive force needed for self-healing simultaneously activates the opposite pole. This activation sounds an alarm in our energy body as the ghosts close in, ready for the kill. They would destroy our inspiration: “How ridiculous to think that life could be so good. Who do you think you are to dare to consider enlightenment? Remember the pain that you have suffered? Don’t think that it could possibly stop because you are doing some stupid ritual or saying some sniveling prayer. Get real! This is all there is. If you try to make it better it will just get worse—better to leave well enough alone. Let your fears make your decisions.”

Intentions to grow heighten vulnerability as we momentarily allow our vision to reflect our true potential, invoking the challenge to let go of our familiar self-limiting parameters. Releasing the known pushes us to the edge of the cliff, teetering on the brink of our faith, daring to believe for one moment that more could be possible. Into this delicate space the hungry ghosts swarm, trying to distract us as they bite at our convictions and visions. If they succeed, we are thrown off balance and fall into the abyss of our illusions. They win, we lose.

‘The Tibetan smiles at my melodrama around the “Forces of Undoing.” He challenges me to open to the possibility that the hungry ghosts might have a divine mission. At first all that I can think of is that their only purpose is to make us miserable. Djwhal Khul laughs, reminding me about the two different kinds of faith. The first springs from life filled with joy and opportunity. It is easy to have faith when all is well. The challenge is to hold steady with one’s faith when life starts throwing major obstacles in our path. The second faith is hard earned through inner strength and persistence. If we can sustain faith when our external reality seems to make a mockery of our ideals, then we are truly rooted in our faith.

That’s where the hungry ghosts come in—to tempt, torment, ridicule, and undermine our faith. If we can survive their attacks and remain centered and aligned, we are truly strong in our spiritual body. This spiritual conviction makes it possible for us to allow the physical, emotional and mental bodies to go through whatever intensity is integral to the transformational process.

Ironically, the hungry ghosts are really spiritual coaches in disguise. Just like strict drill sergeants in boot camp, their job is to toughen us up, whether we like it or not. All of our fluff is stripped from us. Although believing we never signed up for this tyranny, deep in our souls we can sense the rightness of the overall process. We cannot possibly bushwhack the cutting edge of our magnitude if our core star (our soul’s center) is not strong enough. Still breathing after an onslaught from the hungry ghosts indicates we are all ready for action—the action that sweeps us through the gateway into the fifth dimension. So, let us welcome these messengers of the negative pole as they create the very resistance that propels us into our divine destiny.

As a psychologist I am keenly aware of the alchemical cycle of transformation. Initially when metal is alchemized into gold there is the blackening stage. Emotionally and spiritually the blackening phase demands a journey to the underworld resulting in a dismemberment process. This is not a physical, but a psychic dismemberment. We leave the world of order, certainty and knowing, and fall into the vortex of chaos, not-knowing and fragmentation. This is a necessary part of the alchemical process of breaking down old forms. At this point the hungry ghosts lunge forward, eager to pick apart our certainties as they introduce doubt, disturbance, fear, bewilderment and judgment.

While intellectually I understand all of this, when the hungry ghosts come after me, I’ll run faster than anyone to get away from them. Of course, they always catch me, shrieking in delight at my dismay. As they pull me apart I wail at my predicament, losing all sight of my overall process. Rarely, when particularly centered, I manage to faintly remember that this is a very necessary part of the process. However, it is hard to be comforted by that thought when the experience becomes painful and discouraging. Sometimes I try to block out the process until it is over, struggling to invoke “psychic anesthesia.” But that doesn’t work. We can’t sleep through the hungry ghosts. They are just too noisy. They demand interaction. Attempting to push them away just makes them stronger. Surrender is the answer—surrender with awareness.

Oh how mature we have to be to hold this perspective, allowing ourselves to be momentarily devoured by our karmic past. In the long run it’s easier to be mature than to throw a temper tantrum which only wastes the precious energy needed to survive the alchemical fire. Memories of past skirmishes with these ghostly devils help me to “hang on” during this process. I have survived and flourished in spite of their history of relentlessness. In my twenties I could not name this process, feeling at the mercy of these potent adversaries. Bringing me to my knees, I would cry, rage and wonder whether life was worth living, thinking that it would always be this bad. I believed every lie the ghosts told me. Caught in a place of inadequacy and failure, I would let them win—postponing” my transformation. However, even in those dark nights, the subtle voice of guidance emerged telling me that eventually I would have the strength to go forward, allowing my true self to flourish.

Over time I have learned to recognize the usual insults and criticisms of my personal hungry ghosts. They always say the same thing. This allows me some measure of perspective to keep going. Every time I dare to be more than I have been, the hungry ghosts will immediately spring forth, undermining my positive outlook. I try to remember to breathe. They have never been able to completely take away my breath. Physical movement helps. A moving target is harder for them to attach to—tai chi, chi gong, yoga, walks—whatever it takes to keep the energy circulating. The more the energy moves, the quicker this process is completed.

‘It helps to remember that birth resides within death, and so too does gold reside within the blackening. Patience is essential. Eventually the clouds part and the sun shines again. Hungry ghosts don’t like the sunshine, especially when it radiates out from the soul. I now trust that my natural light will burn away the veils the “ghosts” tell me are real. So, I surrender, ego unwilling, to this spectacular process reminding myself that transformation is possible for all beings—no, not possible—probable. The gold within always emerges victorious.”

Copyright© 2002 Soul Searching with Djwhal Khul, the Tibetan

Moriah Marston
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