I have had her for 3 years since she was about four weeks old and now for about a month and a half she won't let me hold her everybody else she lets them hold her. She's black and part siamese.

well most people think siamese cats are mean, but its not true. it all depends on how you treat the cat. love her more than the rest of your family members are loving her. she should come around soon.good luck

Hello,

I have been using a crate to train my 5 month old puppy. We use the crate at night and if we leave for short periods of time. I have read a lot online about how it's not good to use the crate for punishment. However, sometimes i'll get really angry when she misbehaves, and I know it's not her fault, she's just a puppy.. So, if she misbehaves, I do not scold her or say anything, I just pick her up and take her to her crate and quietly shut the door and keep her there until i calm down. I just don't want to lose my temper with her and this seems to work for both of us. Is this doing more harm than good?

Yes, I think it's best for you and for the pup to just - wordlessly - put her away. Keep in mind that you must put at least 5 'deposits' back into your relationship when you go to get her out. Ask for behaviors that she can do easily and reward these, and then go back to what you were doing.
You know, many top dog trainers have this problem from time to time. They get upset when they can't figure out something about training and they'll put the dog away until they can figure it out. It's important to not subject the dog to our emotions - after all, they are dogs and they don't understand out anger at all.
Having a mutual time out gives you time to stop, breathe, and think. That makes it easier for everyone, right?
Good question!

have a bottle of MIDOL or PAMPRIN gift wrapped and anonomously delivered. Maybe he'll catch on. (don't hold your breath)

We know Hillary can push his buttons.

Of course. He has no spine and cannot handle the heat

I have a bad temper. I have a no tolerance problem. It's controlling me and it's very hard to deal with. I try to calm myself down. It works for a few minutes but then my temper gets up there again and I just snap sometimes. I got so upset at my boyfriend once and choked him and almost threw him over the banister on the stairs. My mind just wasn't there.

http://handlinganger.blogspot.com/

Tips For Surviving Temper Tantrums

These strategies can greatly reduce the number of emotional storms, but their appearance is inevitable. What then?

First, take a deep breath. I've been in a grocery store with my children having temper tantrums, as a pediatrician, with my patients in the checkout line. The first thing you feel is, "I just wish I could drop into the floor someplace so nobody would see me."

While you are taking a deep breath, consciously relax. Kids really play off your emotions. It's so hard to relax in this situation, but just let your muscles go. The more uptight you are, the more energy is available for their tantrums. Kids thrive on attention, even negative attention.

Some children will calm down if you pick them up and hold them.

Each child is unique. One thing that often works very well is to try to voice to the child what he is going through. "You must really want to get this, don't you?" Then he may melt and say, "Uh huh."

You will have to experiment with your child to see what it is that can help him understand that everything is okay, these bad feelings will pass, and that it's all a normal part of growing up.

Whatever you do, if your child had a temper tantrum to try to get something, don't give it to him, even if you would have ordinarily done so. Choosing your child's long-term gain over such dramatic short-term relief is part of what makes properly handling temper tantrums so heroic.

Instead of giving your child what he wants, you might say, "Sorry, I would love to give you what you want, but because you had a temper tantrum, I can't right now. Next time, let's do that." Stand by your child during this difficult time for both of you.

Sorry if that sounds mean but she knwos she sucks she say it all the time i am very competative and i am biting my lip not to yell i give her tips but she doesn’t listen i don’t know how much longer i can take it before i blow up anyone have any tips on anger issues?

Okay, bear with me because my answer may end up kind of long, and it’s not a volleyball story, but relates to the same problem.

I play volleyball, but mostly for fun.
I also play fastpitch softball - and while it is fun, I am really competitive and I want to win.
I’m a pitcher and one of the big leaders on the team.
There are some girls who just don’t do well and I always get really mad.
I used to kind of yell at them sometimes…not like scream in their face but be like “LADIES, you HAVE to back-up your teammates!”
I knew it wasn’t good sportsmanship, but I just wanted to win and couldn’t control it.

But then I went to a volleyball camp to help me improve my game.
We were doing a scrimmage and this girl kept seriously screaming in my face when I couldn’t jump serve.
It made me feel so bad inside and I just wanted to run out of the gym.
Of course I didn’t and just ignored her, but internally it made me so upset that I couldn’t pay attention right.
That day I went home and cried (yeah I’m kind of emotional).
Then I realized that I do that to people, too, and it doesn’t help at all - actually it hurts your teammates, thus it hurts you, thus it hurts the team.
Instead, gently help her by saying “Nice try! But make sure you bend your knees more instead of swinging your arms so much on a serve receive.”
Then give her a high-five and help her practice when you can.
So basically the moral is, don’t scream, help your team. =)
Haha that rhymes!

Anyway, good luck with your team. =)

I just wanted to know how to reshape and temper metal such as copper, iron and steel. Am I just supposed to hit it into shape when it's red hot?
I really, really wnat to know how to reshape it.

First heat the metal to a great temperature. When its red hot it'll bend really easily, If you have thick gloves you might shape it with your hands, otherwise you can hit it or use pliars. If it cools down it'll get harder but is still possible. just hit harder. When it cools down it'll get brittle though so be careful.

I got reported by a "Rightie" cuz after his ranting and raving about liberals, he didn't have enough balls to take my response!
I'm fairly new to this site, and couldn't believe the childish behavior this person displayed.
How can your answer be deleted with out Yahoo first reading what he wrote!
His question was nasty and ignorant & he reports me???
Do most Conservatives buckle to there knees and "tattle" if you come back at them??
No wonder so many Republican bigwig's hid out from Nam, their a bunch of wussie's!
I'm sure he reported more than just me with the responses he got from other Liberals!
PS my spellcheck will not work!

You can get reported by anybody. As long as what you are doing is not in violation of the community guidlines, you should be ok and your account won't be suspended. There are so many people that are out to "pick fights" and just gain reactions — I've found it best to just take the high road so to speak. best of luck.

While you are with no one else but, wth your boss. His words and voice is irritating. Spending two minutes is difficult. How to spend two hours ?
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That's a hard one to learn, I know. But somehow through the years, you start being able to stall that spark, and you learn how to "act" and say things like, "Well, Mr. Smith, I don't exactly agree, but I could accept your plan," or "Let me think about that, it may work," etc. It sounds kissy, but people at work especially can be very irritating and nauseaus. The main thing is not your ego (but the boss's ego), so you have to have some nice glib and bull stuff to get along at work. And that's really a hard one. Good luck!