on O’Reilly
lol thanks guys…I had to back it up and record it so I can show it to my husband in the morning.

Rep. Barney Frank is an overpaid crybaby that sounds like Elmer Fudd.

I have come very close to smashing my computer with my fists because I paid for this wireless network service, & it's not working. I know destroying the computer would make things worse, & I'd have no computer. I really need help before I lose it. Would it drive you crazy if every 2 minutes, your paid wireless internet service disconnects?
I'm about to throw a big fit & cry!

Take several deep breaths and consider leaving your computer and calling the wireless provider tomorrow morning to come out a fix the problem. Also check your router, but don't throw it.

I admit I have a horrible temper, but I keep it inside, until It’s needed to be released (which only is when I need to defend myself, or the likes of someone or something I’ve sworn to protect, i.e. my family, my animals) currently, Disturbed - Indestructible, suits me to a tee. but then I love stuff like Analog by Strung Out, that keeps me calm when I’m on the verge of snapping, or stuff from TRUSTcompany. Loud, hard, shit is what I’m looking for. Any ideas?

"Push It" Static-X
"The Air That I Breathe" All That Remains
"That Was Just Your Life" Metallica
"Animal I Have Become" Three Days Grace
A lot of Metallica's stuff is amazing with anger

Hello and welcome to - How To Improve Your Self-Esteem Fast! I have written about what I feel self esteem is all about and how I improved mine. I am not a doctor nor am I an expert, but I have read a lot of self help books to improve my own self-esteem, and I believe that high self esteem is a huge factor in leading a happy life.

So What Is Self-Esteem?

Your self-esteem is not only how you feel about yourself in the present, it is how you asses yourself fundamentally through out the long term. If you have low self esteem, daily events can have a major influence on how you feel. For example, a kind gesture from a friend or a good day at work can make you feel great for a few days. And alternately a not so nice day can make you feel extremely low. And lets face it most days are uneventful and dull, so when you have low self esteem staying high can be a struggle! A good healthy self-esteem is based on accepting yourself for who you are - know who you are, and be content, like yourself!

Your Self-esteem Has Been…

Built and developed throughout out your entire life to this point in time now! And yes you guessed it, child hood had a huge impact on your self-esteem. All the pleasant, good, bad and ugly stuff that happened while growing up had an influence on how you rate yourself today. Healthy self-esteem will have been built from praise, respect and stable influences while growing up. People who were yelled at, regularly criticized, abused, given no positive attention, bullied etc, will have found it difficult to develop a healthy self-esteem. These are extreme examples, and subtle negative/positive experiences have a big impact also. Things happening that you don’t necessarily remember, or didn’t think much of can have been big influences also.

Argue With Your “Inner Voice” To Help Improve Self-Esteem

We all have an inner voice constantly chatting away inside our heads. It passes comment on everything we did/do/want to do. And for those with healthy self-esteem it reassures and compliments. For us with poor self-esteem the inner voice criticizes, puts us down and stands in our way! When you do something, like for example - compete in sport or go for a job interview, and some one praises you the inner voice will say something like “he was lying, you were terrible, don’t bother next time”. What you must do is contradict the inner voice, and snap back with something like - “He praised me because I did well, I might not have been perfect but win lose or draw I did my best and I’m proud of myself!”

Arguing with your inner voice will go along way towards improving your self-esteem, start now! Remember this, YOU are the boss, YOU are in control, don’t let the critic within bring you down!

Using Positive Affirmations To Improve Self-Esteem

A positive affirmation is a positive statement about yourself. Use them in a meditation technique, as well as through each day by saying them to yourself in your mind. Ideally you want to relax at least once a day and just quietly repeat some positive statements to yourself - playing some relaxing music at the same time is real good help!

Examples of positive affirmations to improve self-esteem:

Who You Are -

I am beautiful

I am strong

I am special

Who you will be -<

I can be a winner

I can be strong

I can heal

I can lose weight

I will do -

I will like myself

I will smile more

I will control my temper

By repeating these things to yourself on a constant basis you have no choice but to believe them deep down! You will become these things, and that’s improving self-esteem.

Self-Nurturing To Improve Self-Esteem

Self-nurturing is critical to improving self-esteem. Start by looking after yourself physically, by eating well, staying/getting into shape and having all the sleep you need - not too much and not too little.

Self-nurturing to improve self-esteem is making yourself feel worthwhile. Treat yourself regularly by doing fun and enjoyable things - especially when you’ve achieved something meaningful. You must reward yourself for accomplishments! Think of the things you like about yourself, and remind yourself constantly about them. Don’t dwell or punish yourself for failing - reward yourself for trying in the first place. Remember to concentrate on the good and learn to forgive what you perceive to be the bad. Times when you don’t feel good or positive are crucial, you must find things about yourself that are good no matter how small they might be! Improving self-esteem will come by doing these things. Acquiring help from loved ones can be a big help for improving self-esteem. Ask friends and family to tell you what they like about you. Ask them to be your release valve when you feel low or frustrated - by just listening when your letting off steam, this can be a huge help in improving self-esteem.

Your Environment Is Vital To Improving Self-esteem And Maintaining It

Being surrounded by warm, loving people is a huge factor in self-esteem. Now I know this isn’t possible for a lot, not everyone has a caring friend and family network. However you must ensure that those you do have in your life accept you, and of course you must accept them for who they are. A feeling of acceptance will help you to realize that differences between people are okay. Relationships with others will be easier to build by understanding this. Bond with those you see and interact with every day, do this by simply talking, touching while talking, showing respect, listening, being supportive, and being honest. Liking those around you and knowing that they feel the same about you is a huge boost to ones self-esteem!

Criticism

Don’t be sorry for who you are! If and when you’re criticised, for what ever reason be sure to “judge” what is said to you before responding. Don’t automatically apologise! If the criticism is fair then take it on board and respond by agreeing with the criticiser. If unfair then stand up to it, like with your inner voice. A well composed and self-possessed person will listen to criticism without interrupting and then respond. Be sure to give criticism at appropriate times, people with poor self-esteem often find it harder to give than to take. Don’t let annoyances go until you “boil over”, it’s usually better to nip things in the bud. Be tactful and try not to hurt another persons’ self-esteem. Use the word “I” not “you”, example - I have trouble when that happens.

David Stuart

www.improvingselfesteemfast.com

This article is one of the most awful veracity based and the most realistic researched based article, which I have ever written in my life. This article has created many hindrances in my personal matters too while working for it. Even the research has made me to lose some of my known people, because they think that it is wrong to find about the bitter realities. I work on this article for the social cause and I damn care for others who didn’t want me to write this awareness article in order to alert the young generation of our society about this abusive issue. I want to prepare youngsters for their future to deal which such incidents with dare.

I have done 2 years of extensive research on the issue of CHILD ABUSE.

This article is the reality based article, and I have already received many international proclaimed for this research.

I am glad to see lots of audience to appreciate my work but despair to see many who did not trust me when I started working for this article.

I hate child to be abused. I want criminals to be in jail as soon as possible.

Our government is taking no steps and I know few young children who had been abused by bastard abuser and for that purpose, I wrote this article to aware every one about the repute, which has already been lost by many youngsters who had been abused.

May be many people might think of me wrong as I had visited several websites to gather information about child abuse and I also chatted on Mirc channels, in order to trap the accused for finding out the realities. I have talked too many who had just insanely performed such acts and tried to trap youngsters for the fulfillment of their abusive wishes. I anonymously chatted them like an innocent child, talked them on phone, and also met few with lots of security protection of my relatives for me, in order to trap them to find out the reasons.

It’s a noble cause and I dedicate this work for some one who is every thing to me. I know that person would feel proud of me one day, when that person will know that I have written good article for humanity awareness.

What the anguish is the world is doing to deliberate towards solving the major, bitter problem of our society? I.e. dilemma of CHILD ABUSE.

Children are innocent, but it doesn’t mean that we should ignore our duty to give them Proper attention. The emotional scars are deeper than the physical scars. Who will fill the scars which are left behind and which could not be mended easily?

I would like to congratulate and would present the award to the United Nation, Child Protection agencies and especially to the social workers, for just sitting and eating donations from the donor countries and for doing nothing to stop this serious major concerned problem.

Arranging meetings, seminars etc on child abuse issue would never solve the problem until and unless governments pass any law i.e. severe punishment for the accused.

I can’t solve this major problem individually. All I can do is to motivate every one to just move forward to solve this problem globally.

I would like to give basic awareness to the local public as well as to the government officials, to learn about the basic facts about the major concerning problem of child abuse.

Remember that Child abuse is never child’s fault. It’s the fault of those dirty minds, which are like wild animals.

Child abuse consists of any act, or failure to act, that jeopardizes a child’s physical or emotional or mental health and development.

Child abuse also means to sodomize young male or female orally or sexually.

There are three major types of child abuse:

•Physical abuse

•Emotional abuse

•Sexual abuse

Physical child abuse is the wound resulting from physical aggression. Beating, shaking, kicking, pinching, biting, hair-pulling, burning with cigarettes, scalding water or hot objects, abuse by a sibling/relative etc are all in the category of physical abuse.

Emotional abuse is a prototype of actions that attacks a child’s emotional development. It includes steady criticizing; belittling, insulting, rejecting and teasing are some of the forms these oral attacks can take.

Sexual abuse, which is our main topic of concern in this article, is critically defined as:

Sexual abuse of a child is any sexual act between an adult and a child (either gender). This term is also known as sodomization or child molestation.

It includes touching; kissing, hugging or making them to allow you to touch their sex organs, forcing the child to undress, spying on a child in the bathroom or bedroom, exposing children to pornography (movies, magazines, or websites), luring a child for sexual relationships, exposing children to adult sexuality in any form like showing sex organs to a child, forced observation of sexual acts, telling “dirty” stories, child prostitution or sexual exploitation (using a child to perform sex with others), which is very common in Asian countries, intercourse, incest, rape, oral sex, sodomy or even beyond it.

Sexual child abusers can be: Stepmothers, stepfathers, siblings, or other relatives, childcare professionals, peons, government officers, teachers, or athletic coaches, foster parents, truck drivers, friends, relatives, vagabond, burger boys, rich business man, strangers etc

What are the reasons, which makes a normal person to abuse child?

My research has found some of the factors, which are given below:

Stress, lack of the nurturing qualities, difficulty controlling anger, a personal history of being abused by some one in the past, divorce, isolation from the family or community, physical or mental health problems, alcohol or drug abuse, marital conflict, financial difficulties, for fun and pleasure, taking out frustration, short temper etc.

Child abuser specially tries to trap innocent, young, cute, chubby, shy, reserved, or alone child.

They can use any medium to trap them like giving them gift; inviting them for a cup of tea; giving them rupees or free coupons; threat them; inspiring them by giving them extra attention etc.

Child abusers are very clever. They try to trap innocent on net via mail or chat or by visiting public parks or any area, which is full of crowd.

Some signs of sexual child abuse are as follows:

•Fear, depression, shyness, fever, quietness, shivering, tension, fever, stammering while talking, inappropriate interest or your child could be attention Deficit., avoidance of things related to sexuality, or rejection of own genitals or body, excessive aggression, fear of a particular person, impaired social behavior, antisocial behavior, and difficulty establishing intimate personal relationships, low self-esteem, self-injury, suicidal tendencies, eating disorders; personality disorders, nightmares, bed wetting etc.

Steps to be taken

•If you suspect child abuse, always report it for the sake of the child. Inform the victim parents and call your nearest police station or take the help of Rangers.

•Do not neglect if your child wants to share some thing to you. Always build the relation of trust with your child.

•Do not mentally torture your child. Be calm and ask them the real scenario.

•Never de-motivate them to speak up.

•Teach them from their early age to be aware of child abusers.

•Teach them not to talk to any stranger or passerby.

•Teach your child not to receive mail, gifts, or packages from someone you don’t know.

•Gently encourage the child to give you enough information to evaluate whether abuse may have occurred.

•If the child reveals the mistreatment, reinstate him/her that you believe him/her, that he/she is right to tell you, and that he/she is not bad.

Who can help victim?

Social worker; Teacher; Police; Lawyer; Family Member etc.

Conclusion:

Now it’s high time to take action. The life of victim cannot be judged. We cannot conceive the pain in their heart properly. Governments should pass severe strict laws against child abusers so that they could not perform such act ever again in their life.

The issue should be raised in all the Public and Government schools and I would request every one to circulate this researched article to your families, friends, and students etc to spread awareness among them. Your support, act of kindness and adoration towards innocent child will bring happiness and a little smile on their faces.

When my son does not get his way or I put him in time out, he will hit, scratch, or kick me. Sometimes he will just out of the blue hit me or throw things at me. He acts this way more when he is tired. He is a normal 4 year old and very intelligent and verbal.
He has a good attention span and is an only child. Also, FYI I teach special ed and 4 is too young to diagnose ADD or ADHD.

He sounds like my 4 year old boy! I try and just ignore it! I also bought a timer so he sees me set the timer. Whenever he throws something I say “When you throw things, (or whatever he is doing not okay) it shows me you need a longer timeout.” then I start the time over. When he is really in a rage, I send him to his room telling him that he may come out whenever he is calm enough to take his timeout, If he comes out and is still angry, I send him back in. When he is calm, he comes out and then takes his timeout calmly. Good Luck!

I love my boyfriend's son (6) to death, but he's one of the most challenging kids I've ever been around in my entire life. His bio mom hasn't been in the picture in almost a year, so I'm the only 'mother figure' he has. My current situation does not allow me to work, so I'm playing housewife for the time being. This is not something I enjoy; I want kids, but I want to work!

Anyways, his son is a tough one. The past few days, I've become quite irritable, and I'm much less patient with him. I'm Bipolar, and though I can control my anger and frustration much more than years ago, I feel like a more 'p*ssed off' person than most.

I don't want to take my frustration out on him. I would never abuse the kid, but I've caught myself saying some kind of mean things to him lately, without thinking first. I've been doing less activities with him the past few days because I'm scared I'll snap at him.

We all get angry sometimes; as a parent (or caregiver), how do you handle your anger?
oops… this should have mostly been at the end of the first paragraph:

No one else can watch him but me (their family is unreliable, and my family is 100 miles away), and I'm around him 24/7. We can't afford childcare right now (that's a whole other situation). Being unable to work and get out of the house is stressing me out bad. I would never ever ever wish this kid away, but I feel like I need a break. I realize this can't happen right now, so for another month, I have to suck it up and make the best of it.
Thanks, Spitchus, for that comment about working 24/7. I've always used work as an escape from the rest of my life (I love working!), yet in this situation, the work IS my life! I do have now, however, a new-found respect for stay-at-home-moms now! I could never permanently do it.

As for other comments, my BF and I communicate EVERYTHING about his son. His son is on meds for ADHD and Bipolar. He has the maturity of a 4 y/o, yet manipulative abilities like a 10 y/o. I spend time with him, but it's very hard for him to occupy himself (I can tell him to play by himself for an hour and then we'll play together; he often can't get through the whole hour without getting into major trouble).
Teri, I do believe you are right about him getting enjoyment out of it. After all, he gets what he really wants: attention.

If you find yourself getting angry, or upset…stop and ask your self if it is because of him, or if you are flustered at your self.

Then, let him go off and do his own thing while you take several deep breaths and calm yourself down.

Count to ten a few times, put on some soothing music…just do whatever it takes to help your self relax, within the realm of legal activities.

We are looking into possibly getting counseling for my four year-old step-son. He is throwing violent temper-tantrums over stupid things. We don't believe in spanking and time-outs are NOT working. Help!

Send him "away". Calmly tell him, "go to your room until you are in control" and then ignore him until he stops. It worked for all my kids(all 6) and my mom used it, too. Don't you "lose it" sometimes? You have learned to walk away, and face the situation when you are in control of yourself. He has to learn the same.

BTW, it sometimes helps to explain to him later, that you also have to blow off steam, adn talk about how you do it safely.

We all know how much “Star Wars” influenced our culture today, yet what one single lesser-known quote from the series can make you wealthy?

I’ll give you one clue: It’s not from Yoda, and it’s not about The Force… or is it?

It’s not directly about choosing to follow your passions and avoiding temptation, although indirectly it does speak to the same “Secret” Napoleon Hill mentions in “Think and Grow Rich” more than 100 times… which is also the essence of “The Force”.

Before I reveal which quote I’m talking about, let’s shift gears a moment to talk about an interesting e-mail that was passed around a week or so ago.

I saw it on a popular marketing forum, which surprised me, because it talked about some “UV” ray sent to The Earth from beyond which magnified the power of our thoughts 1 million times.

The ‘ray’ isn’t the important thing – what is important, which also ties in with the Star Wars quote that can make you wealthy, is the principle behind it.

Just think for a minute what would happen to you if everything you thought about instantly happened…

You see an attractive woman in a video and fantasize about being with her…. and voila she’s wrapping her arms around you. You see a pizza commercial and “30 minutes or less” becomes 30 nanoseconds and it’s blazing hot in your lap. You hear a hot rod zooming by your house and think “wouldn’t that be cool” when suddenly you’re accelerating to 165 on the open road.

Really think about this a minute, though. Would you want that kind of power? Could you handle it?

For example, just as quickly as your thought turns to driving fast in a red Ferrari, the thought creeps in there… “What if I blow a tire?” or “What if I get caught?”

And sure enough, that thought also happens just as quickly as “the good thought”.

In an undisciplined mind (which is about 98 percent of the population by the way) it’s true that “for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction”.

In this case, we apply that as “for every positive thought, there is an equal and opposite thought” there waiting in the wings to blow out the tires of the things you want.

Most people move so fast between thoughts, they’re not even aware of how many negative ones they’re unconsciously empowering – which is why so many people have at best mixed results, and most people in fact have more things they don’t want than things they do.

Plus, they’re taught they have very little power to create their lives exactly as they want – when in fact that’s the only power they do have.

(Napoleon Hill says The Creator, using Infinite Wisdom, gave us control over just one thing, and that one thing is all we need to have everything we want.)

Can you guess what that one thing is? You got it! Our thoughts.

When you first start focusing your attention on your thoughts, you realize how scattered or across the board they are.

Then you start intentionally keeping your mind on the things you want, and gently guiding your thoughts away from the random or scattered influences and distractions… especially the fears and habits that often limit and block people from having those things they want.

This brings us back to the little-known quote from “Star Wars”, which when you understand… and apply it, can make you wealthy.

It’s from “Episode I: The Phantom Menace” and the scene has the young man who will grow up and be re-born as Darth Vader losing his temper and becoming frustrated with the training from his experienced Jedi Master mentor.

Obi-Wan Kenobi says, “Be mindful of your thoughts, young Anakin, for they betray you.”

The master saw plain as day that the student was focusing his power (The Force) on things that made him upset, causing him to lose focus on mastering the way he’s creating the things he wants – and causing him to create more things he doesn’t want.

Instead, think of Luke Skywalker training with Yoda in the swamp where he learns to focus his thoughts and raise the X-Wing Fighter out of the marsh. (Until he loses his focus and the ship drops.)

This is not something sci-fi that applies only in “A galaxy far, far away”. In fact, it’s right out of the original “Think and Grow Rich” that was released way back in 1937.

And it is very much within your potential to control and master this power. Because the way you use your thoughts determines everything that happens to you.

That’s what Obi-Wan means by saying that our thoughts betray us.

He’s talking about non-focused thoughts, and the metaphor of what happened to Anakin as he became consumed by “The Dark Side” is unfortunately what happens to almost everyone. They’re taught to believe things happen by chance or luck, or only to people with the right education, sex, race, background… to someone other than them.

That nonsense IS “the Dark Side” and it’s all dis-empowering garbage that if people give any attention to, their thoughts, too, will betray them.

And they’ll barely get by and have a lot of struggle along the way.

Instead, this moment, I’d like you to turn that all around, and use that quote as “The Force” for good in your life. Use it as your personal mantra and… “Be Mindful of Your Thoughts”!

“For They Betray You” – just heed that as the warning, that your thoughts are what create your life, so if you focus your thoughts on what you want, on being rich, that’s what will happen to you. And if you focus your thoughts on fear, crime, scandal….

The quality of your experiences portray the quality of the previous thoughts you had. That’s why it’s so important for you to “Be Mindful of Your Thoughts”.

Therefore, starting this moment, I’m asking you to constantly ask yourself…
– “How can I use that to become more wealthy?” – “How can I apply that quote to keeping my focus on additional ways to become richer?” – “How can I apply that (newspaper article, interesting web site, advancement in health, study showing people’s buying habits, whatever you see and hear and find yourself thinking about) to becoming wealthier?”

By doing that, what you’re really doing is using your power to Think and Grow Rich! Being Mindful of Your Thoughts will lead you to pocketfuls of the riches that result.

Brake rotors are the rotating discs on the Mercedes-Benz disc brake system. They are mounted on the Mercedes Benz drive train and provide a clamping surface for the brake pads. When you step on the brake pedal, the foot pressure is transmitted hydraulically by the master cylinder to a push rod connected to the caliper-driven brake pads. Depending on the foot pressure input, the caliper then squeezes on the brake rotors and retards the motion of the car.

The disc brake system of the Mercedes Benz works in principle like the brakes on a bicycle. But, since cars need more braking power, the caliper in the disc brake assembly clamps on the rotor to apply restraint on the wheels instead of a caliper tightening on the wheel itself. Aside from improved braking power, the Mercedes Benz disc brake assembly spares the wheels from the resulting friction.

Operationally, the brake rotors are exposed to high heat condition. Most Mercedes Benz brake rotors are made of cast iron to withstand the heat and friction against the brake pads. But the chronic contact between the two makes them highly disposed to regular replacement and maintenance. Brake pads are one of the maintenance items in a Mercedes Benz that require periodic replacement, while brake rotors often have a long service life.

Replacement brake pad sets are categorized as per drive applications. Brake pads with harder and less aggressive compounds are designed for Mercedes Benz cars used in city driving. Using this kind of friction material on performance cars can result in brake fade. Race cars, or performance Mercedes Benz cars for that matter, are fitted with a brake pad set lined with soft and more aggressive friction material like asbestos, Aramid, etc. Driving style and preferences are often valid considerations when deciding on brake pad replacement.

Because most brake pads are equipped with aggressive friction compounds, brake rotors are periodically flipped to make rotor wear even. However, turning the brake rotors can reduce their ability to temper heat in the high-friction operating condition. Heat buildup between the brake rotors and the brake pads can “warp” or reshape the brake rotors, causing thickness variations. When this happens, you get a pedal pulsation, and sometimes, a jolt in the steering wheel. When the brake rotors get worn over time, they do not only get thin but lose the heat ventilations on their contact surface. This ventilation exhausts friction heat via the holes that are cross-drilled on the discs.

Aftermarket Mercedes Benz brake rotors can have fins or drills hollowed out of them that are meant to dissipate heat at greater amounts, preventing rotor warping and brake pad wear. These usually go to the front brake rotors, which carry more of the weight load of the car and are faced more frequently by hard braking operations.

There are also slotted discs. This type can be the most ventilated brake rotor. However, slotted discs are more appropriate for Mercedes Benz earmarked for racing and hard drive applications. The slots on the brake rotors, while reducing considerably the possibility of heat buildup, can wear out the brake pads easily. They are nonetheless reliable in preventing the brake pad material to stick on the discs and reduce the braking power of the assembly. When looking for Mercedes brake rotors, these design considerations can let you do away with the largest of requiring premature replacements.